Hello everyone! This is day 8 @RiseToGreatness please update my rank to uruk-hai Success tips Meditation : it prevents you from going autopilot, increases power of your conscious mind on unconscious mind, reduces hypofrontality. I constantly meditated in these 8 days.. Sometimes mind was focused, sometimes wandering but it really helped in my streak IN MY LAST ATTEMPTS I USED TO RELAPSE ON THE DAY I DIDN'T MEDITATE( like three days i did meditate I would have three day streak if i won't meditate on fourth day it was reset). This continued for months 2) prayers and connecting to God asking for his guidance, reading scripture .. If you are atheist that you can connect to any human you idealize, or science 3) working on your emotional wounds I use rational emotive behavioral therapy(REBT).. It helps move forward from your traumatic past. I would also suggest you to remove toxic people from your life because YOU CANT HEAL IN SAME PLACE YOU WERE HURT. Surround your self with positive people 4) maintain a journal : Where you can write your feelings before and after relapse, Before and after resisting pmo Before and after meditation Before and after workout Or any positive quote you come across I am really happy to go this far
Day 5: My car is at the body shop getting some work done, so I will be without a vehicle and home alone most of the weekend. Every relapse I've had over the past few months happen on either Saturday or Sunday. I'm going to need to stay strong and vigilant, because I'm not going to be able to leave the house if / when urges hit. It's going to be a huge challenge. Just need to stay focused and stick to the plan.
Here you are my brother. The Shire is before you!!!! Congratulations my brother, you´re a Hobbit!!! Now it´s time to leave the Hole in the Ground . Good journey my brother, Godspeed!!!!
Congratulations brother, you entered the Elven valley of Rivendell . Welcome!!! You´re an Elf now . Keep going my brother!!!
yep, major dangers there: - bad sleep - lack of workout - lack of purpose. work on these issues now brother. or face a relapse soon.
One more day along the Ephel Dúath dear Fellowship . 7 more days to Ithilien Feeling a lot better today and more solid Have a great day my brothers!!! Stay focus!!! Here´s a powerful post from a brother in Reddit. "PMO KILLS YOUR MOTIVATION That shit is worse that weed. Are you at a point in your life where you want to make things happen, but you can't because of a wall? A glass ceiling? A plateau? Is your ass sitting at home, in your dorm, in your office lamenting you lack of success, money, women? Are you one of those guys who have never had sex, never done anything intimate? Well I'm not going to sugarcoat things for yall. A lot of people will, But I won't. The same drive you use to not jack off for 10 days is the same drive you use to get a woman, get a job, get a promotion, and get money and be the alpha male. A lot of people think that once they stop wacking it they will immediatly turn into studs that don't give a fuck. That's false. The DRIVE YOU USED TO STOP PMO, IS THE SAME DRIVE THAT MAKES YOU GET OUT AND DO THINGS. It's the PROCESS of abstaining that makes you alpha. It is NOT the result. For all you people out there, who on the verge of relapsing, DON'T DO IT. Think of something you want. Something you really want do in life. You want that next promotion? You want that girl? You want to get in shape? Stop wackin it. Equivilate the failure of your goals to the process of PMO. Do it, and you will go farther than you have ever done before, because to relapse is to doom yourself to the failure of ever achieving that goal you want to badly."
Day 2 I never got around to posting yesterday, and while it was a bit of a down day, I did not have urges. I had a really good therapy appointment. We discussed my mindset during my relapse a well as the fact that I made the conscious choice to look at porn and masturbate instead of fighting the urge. I had just given in, and I was engaging in behavior that I knew would lead to relapse, but I did not care. There was no excuse for what I did, but my therapist (who in the past has told me that he did not believe I truly wanted to get clean) now sees a change in my behavior and he believes that I am serious about it. That pleases me. I got up at 6am this morning and my family is on our way to Milwaukee to celebrate my youngest sister’s 21st birthday, so that should be fun. We are going to surprise with a small party with her roommates and best friend in this time of COVID-19. Feeling really good today. Will be back on tomorrow. Have a good day, all and may you find support inn the fellowship! Best, Mathman1994