Femdom addiction

The only way to build real self worth, is by setting commitments to self healing and sticking to them. Also having compassion with yourself if you relapse, but not seeing it as an opportunity to go into self sabotage mode just because you've done it once. Telling yourself everyday is an opportunity to try again and try harder

 

Hello my friend
I was also into femdom and had fantasies before I started to watch porn. For almost six years i was a porn addict and almost all I've watched was femdom. I think those videos condition people to have low self-esteem and they ruin our opportunities with girls. This kind of metirial are based in humiliation, in degradation, and we start to think like this about ourselves as a result to absorb those ideas. That result in a lot of problems: low self-steem, axiety, depression. I had little experience with girls, but I know they don't want a submissive man with a weird fetish. In other words, a personality which was influenced by femdom is not attractive for women.
In my opinion, you need a time to focus on yourself and quit the addiction. Maybe a few months, be patient, Affter that you can think in girls again. One way to overcome low self-esteem is finding activities in which you are really good at. That requires energy and you will feel better and satisfied. Try to improve as a person, and look yourself affter like if you were looking affter children.
I hope that was useful. Take care and stay away from temptation.

 

I have so much to say about Femdom, I think I could talk about it for an hour. I think the origin of this fetish comes from childhood. Think about it. The figure of most authirity for all of us during our so important first years of our lives is our mother (I don't have this fetish, but this is the reason so many have foot fetish. This is what they saw as babies looking for their mothers attention). From further reading I discovered that getting smacked on the butt by your parents, is also causing late fetishes because of the closeness to our genitals. We could cry about the past, but we need to figure out what to do, especially when porn is involved.
Maybe femdom without the porn wouldn't have caused so much damage. Porn makes you want to fantasize about different scenes, which take you to a downward spiral, where you need more exciting content to get the same pleasure reward. Which gets you more and more addicted, and your brain more rewired.

This thread started eith hate for women who dominate and "exploit", and I would dare looking at this differently. The demand for dominatrix comes from us men. We pay them. We are the boss, we tell them what we want and how we want it. We are seeking for pleasure from humiliatin scenes. So who is exploiting who?

The truth as I see it is that we all suffer together, and everyone is first responsible for his own suffering. When ever you blame the world for making women godesses, just remember that you are looking at the world from the eyes of a sex addict. The more we heal, we look at the world, and see it differently.

Just to give the perspective. Just 6 weeks ago, I used to masturbate to femdom fantasies daily!!!! With the great help from this community I am clean for 27 days.
Femdom is very confusing, and I ask myself if it would ever fade away for me. Instead of troublong myself with this question, I am focused on staying away from pmo, and strengthening my masculinity. I think that that is the best direction, even if I'm not sure exactly where it is taking me.

 

A strong man with a healthy self esteem will never fantasise about being humiliated.

Meaning you have to raise your self esteem & change your identity.
The best way to do it is to write down several times every day "i have a healthy self esteem".
The other thing is to keep repeating the mantra ( especially while exercising) " i am strong, i am confident".
Also to build your self esteem ,try challenging yourself and complete tasks.
Start small and increase to big tasks.

The problem is that our parents didn't cultivate a healthy self esteem in us. We have to do it the hard way.
It is possible.

 

Good to know.
Few weeks won't do a thing.
It will take a year or two to fully change your perceptions about yourself.

 

Hey buddy. Cheers from Brazil. I'm just here to say that you can get rid of this stuff. Count on me if you need.

 

That's my man! I'm very proud to hear these good news and I hope you maintain like this.
You must to realise that habbit was dangerous, and you weren't happy never. It was just an artificial feeling of pleasure in your mind, like drugs.

 

You are doing great so far.

 

man, i have a very good technique to eliminate any sexual fetish just depends on you getting it.
I would say then if you still have no improvement, the following steps:

vanilla porn until you start to be naturally attracted to it (no relapse to foot fetish)
mo once a week imagining normal sexual intercourse (stay here until you start to have more desires for normal sexual intercourse than for feet or femdom, that is, at the moment when sexual relations give you more pleasure than foot fetish shit)
nofap hardmode (to detoxify all the pornography garbage) 3 to 5 months

then I would say that you are cured of this garbage, you may not lose the fetish in that time, but the important thing is that you enjoy more normal sex than this fetish when that happens, you end the dependence on foot fetish and have it again healthy and normal sexual behavior, since sex rewards more than foot fetish, you naturally lose your cravings for it and it will atrophy

It is important to note that in all these steps it is important that you do not fantasize, watch porn or any shit that feeds or validates this fetish, the goal here is to strengthen the neural pathways that reward normal sex, while you atrophy the neural pathways that reward the foot fetish

 

I did read today that these kinds of fetish are more likely to happen with guys who grew up with a single mother, it has something to do with them being an authoritative figure in our lives.

 

Femdom is addictive. Best to stay away

 

Just reading about you kissing Cleopatra's feet turned me on a little. That's how much I got into it

You need to promise yourself to stay away from porn. Don't let it win!