Edging and peaking at vids during NoFap

You shouldn't you damage the recovery process. Nofap is without Porn

 

Read the answer here: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/what-if-i-use-porn-without-orgasm

 

If you are edging and peeking during the reboot you are not 14 days in, you are 0 days in, because you have been using all the time. When I say "using" I mean you have been using artificial sexual stimulation to get a dopamine high. Next question. What is artificial sexual stimulation? It is anything that gets you a dopamine high other than sex. Not to be too obvious, but if it is not actual sex, it is not actual sex. You need to step back and understand the reboot involves NO porn, no PMO, no MO, no edging, no porn substitutes, no vanilla porn, no porn memory, no porn fantasy, deliberately avoiding thoughts of sex, for at least 90 days. There is no easy way out of here, I am sorry so say. But...there is a way out. The hard 90. They don't call it the casually done, in your spare time, when you have time, off and on here and there 90. The hard 90 sucks. Dude, take time to UNDERSTAND your problem. Until you do, you won't fix it. Study this vid. Study it.



You are posting in a porn addiction forum. That tells me you have take the first step to freedom, which is really wanting to quit. I have absolute confidence you can do it, but you won't do it just hoping to do it. You have to understand our mutual problem. BTW, everyone fails the jump program the first time. Everyone. You have to turn off your dopamine spout and keep it off for at least 90 days. I am giving you advice I wish someone had given me. It would have save me over a year in getting clean. If I had been smart enough to take it.

Peace.

William.

 

A better question would be "how is edging to porn impacting my life positively"? Is edging to porn your goal? Is it going to help you quit? I can guarantee you will be PMOing in short order and right back to where you were before. When urges become the strongest is when you need to be the strongest. Get the tools you need to fight those urges because those strong urges mean your brain is rebooting. By watching porn and edging you are setting yourself up for failure. Kind of like a food addict going into a restaurant, ordering a pile of food and sitting there smelling it. What will it accomplish? It is making the urge to consume that much worse. If the food addict went and took a walk or meditated or whatever it would have been much more beneficial.

 

There's some knowledgeable folks on here that have posted above. they and myself included have been where you are and have "peaked" at P in the past while quitting. I think you"ll find, as most of us have that you will be unable to recover and will undoubtedly eventually PMO if you watch P. You're listening to that addicted voice in your head that says "its not cheating if I dont MO". Thats your addiction talking and it will fight you every step of the way. You need to learn to identify those thoughts for exactly what they are, giving in and feeding your cravings. Sure it makes it easier, its like a smoker quitting smoking, but having a smoke once in a while to ease the cravings, you just cant quit that way. Once that sweet dopamine floods your brain it will reignite all of your old habitual neural pathways and no change will occur. You have probably experienced that "point of no return" when you peak at P, but you excite yourself to the point where you just cant put it down until you PMO no matter how much you want to.

The first week is the hardest and takes serious effort, you can do it stay vigilant!

 

I am sorry, but I have to agree with every other persons post. You can always help yourself. The fact that you say you cannot help yourself, makes me feel like you might be trying NoFap for an alternative motive other than YOU wanting it gone. If YOU wanted it gone, you can definitely help yourself. If something else wants it gone, YOU don't, so of course you can't out will what you want. Make a decision and stick to it. Sometimes people need to hear the harsh reality.

 

Why so defensive atak? You asked for other's opinions and when you recieved it, you shoved it right back in AllTheRageBackHome's face.

The first part of this post is a rationalisation. It seems you've convinced yourself that by watching just a little porn, you can curb your urges, and it won't affect you in the long run. The problem with this logic is that watching porn without orgasm does not dispel sexual energy. In fact it creates more, leading to urges becoming more intense and presumably ends with you giving in, and blowing a load while edging.

Only spending a little time watching porn is irrelevant to the effect that it has on your current addiction. If you watch porn, or edge, you're feeding the addiction.

The second part of this quote shows the importance of your journey here. I wouldn't expect that you would want to slow down your recovery (and make it harder on yourself in the process) with these peeking sessions. The secret to controlling your sexual energy and your urges to fap/ watch porn is to 'divert' your 'sexual energy' into other areas of your life. Activities that will help you especially are cardiovascular exercise, working, doing chores, meditating, taking cold showers, socialising etc.

 

Yes.Thats it.And MEDITATION plays a major role in fighting any kind of addiction(My experience) Its like you are really communicating with yourself in a deeper sense and it works wonders.Try it and see the result

 

Okay fair dos. There was a post of AllTheRageBackHome's I hadn't read.

Try this video. It is simple and straight to the point!
Btw, this is a video for mindfulness meditation.