The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Checking in day 119 - hard at manual work all day, then to chill out tonight I watch some TV and it is full of triggers for urges again - considering giving TV up altogether but need to find other ways to chill out so I don't get exhausted which can also lead to relapse.

The good feelings of resisting urges are what are keeping me going now.

I would be very grateful if anyone from our Fellowship could help provide samples of trigger prevention, avoidance, mitigation & contingency plans that you have found helpful, as I don't think I have ever really nailed this and could really do with some help

 

Day 30

 

Day 5,

Ran and lots of concrete mixing. Keeping active and trying to stay away from judging other who I view as lazy. Everyone is where they are when they are and that is alright. Its a matter of accepting others as they come rather than molding them into something that you would rather see them as. I want to rationalize my thoughts more than anything, however, I do have questions (1)what does leadership look like in the civilian world and (2) where is the line between kindness/compassion and coddling drawn?

Carry on brave Fellowship!

 

40 days – You try to pass through Caradhras but the PMO forces were strong there. You make a detour to the Dwarven Realm of Moria.

 

Keep fighting! You'll feel so much better tomorrow if you don't give in.

Urges are like a storm: powerful, yes; frightening, yes. But they pass more quickly than you think they will.

 

241 days

 

16 Day Check in :3 !

 

Day 2 complete. Somehow it totally slipped my mind to check in last night, but I messaged my AP and all was well.

I tried a new running route today. It was very nice, I followed the highway for a bit and then took some back lanes through the fields. Someone's loose dog almost gave me a heart attack when I ran by their house, but it must have been pretty well trained not to go far because it gave up after just a few seconds.

@Cartographer I can take a stab at your second question. I think it has to do with repression vs encouragement. If you're coddling someone, you're not really challenging them or giving them what they need to confront issues and grow past them. You'd be suffocating them, in a sense, in this naive, cushy fantasy land where everything's okay just the way it is. Kindness and compassion are acknowledging that sometimes people are experiencing real suffering, but that they do not have to suffer alone and you will help them overcome that suffering.

 

Checking in on Day 102.

 

@RiseToGreatness I relapsed. Not elf anymore.

 

Day 0. But i found problem why im relapsing. Its all the time when i go to some website and there is category for nsfw, porn or on youtube,inst... where is some naughty pics.
I add lot of things to blocker ColdTurkey, keywords.... .I hope this will help me.
Do you know better way to block porn? I tried DNS but it blocked other things too

 

Brother I find the good way to chill by reading bible(Matthew's gospel is my favorite),and there are many educational videos on you tube which can expand your awareness if you but use them instead of watching TV. I watched TV only for 5 minutes through the last 6 months,stopped watching netflix...actually there is a good tv-like internet chanel- Gaia(it has an app too).Most Gaia's movies and programmes are brilliant for your self improvement and self discovery and I heartly reccomend you to try and chill whilst watching Gaia. My favorite program there is Missing links with Greg Bradden
...and sometimes I spend so much time here and studying that I have no time left for anything else.

 

Brother, the best blocker is your own mind and awareness. If you encountered porn,nudity,triggers somewhere it's your own personal responsibility to stop going there, to stop using it no matter how good they are otherwise. Would you eat tastiest and most delicious food if you knew there is poison mixed in ?

 

...just out of my own experience on quitting smoking many years ago from 40 cigarettes a day to 0, and I stopped drinking last year in August despite still having £*** worth of booz in my home(vines,liquers,gins,vodka,whisky and beers..you name it),so I'm 7 months clean by now.
The best way I found out to stop drinking is to hit the rock bottom one day, and if you survive the next day without drinking any alcohol on chaser, the pain(or memory of it) from the experience will keep you sober without any efforts on your part indefinately.
Although when it comes to stopping smoking it was rather mysterious - after multiple failures I prayed in the evening on the 24th of December and thought-'It'd be so nice if I could stop smoking!',I don't know what really happened but I never smoked after that day.

 

Daily checking.

I don´t know if I must say that I totally come back, because I´ve been reading your posts although I didn´t write. These pasts months I had bad and stressful moments, which had me lead to relapsed. Also, I noted that my addiction to PMO had changed in some ways thanks to NoFap, so I had to adapt a new plan and find new defenses. Nevertheless, they aren´t completely finished. In other hand, my future plans had changed a lot and many times in a few months. Please pray for me on this unexpected path, that I hope this will be the best option for my life -natural and sobrenatural-.

I am happy to see that many of you have advanced during this time and I encourage those who have relapsed not to give up and try again. This is the best threat in NoFap and I´m glad to be part of this community.

Sacred Heart of Jesus and Inmaculate Heart of Virgin Mary, help us to beat this vice.