The Lord of the Rings Challenge

sorry to hear bro. what happened?

 

ok, if you can´t find a perfect software to block all contents (since that is almost impossible - internet is plagued by sexual content), then block yourself physically. only use eletronic devices with people in the house, screens facing exposure, etc etc... create a physical barriers strategy.

defining each one triggers prevention system is a hard task, because many of the improvements are made upon trial and error. that means, you relapse, then you find the trigger. but it does not have to be so.

there´s a clear alarm right before the first peak, a sense of agitation and insecurity, a sense of loss of control. use that alarm and take a note "ah, here´s a triggering situation" and change it accordantly. don´t wait, act!

the triggers prevention plan must be written down and read regularly. don´t let it stay on a mere mental level, because your mental notes can and will be forgotten from conscience.

 

Checking in Fellowship . Feeling good

Lot´s of events on the last 24 hours.

Let´s welcome our returned brother @Ciceron . So happy for you to be with us again brother . Let´s do this!!

The following members have upgraded and reach places in Middle Earth. Congratulations!!!

@ksie - Hobbit / Hobbiton (proud of you sis. Onward to the Mountain, good luck!!! )


@Mathman1994 - Buckleberry Ferry / Shire


@Revanthegrey - Elf / Rivendell


@LuckyMan - Pass of Caradhras / Misty Mountains


Most of all a wave of support to our brothers in need @Juxtaposition , @Onan the Barbarian , @crazyhorse11 . Courage my brothers, it´s hard but it´s worth it. We´re with you!!!

Have a great day brave Fellowship!!! Love you all

Here´s JK Emezi with an inspirational post.


"The Story of "Bob' the Porn Addict

Brother,

• Have you been hiding things from your significant other and your kids about what you do in your man cave?

• Have you been living a double life because of your compulsive behavior?

• Do you even have various social media accounts & email addresses so that you can hide your search histories, follows, & subscriptions?

Then please listen up, my friend...

If any of the questions above are true for you, then you likely have a serious out of control porn habit

And chances are that you’ve either been in Self-Denial or you’ve been Procrastinating about facing this issue directly. Even though you know that it’s been something that is eating you from the inside

Before I share how I helped thousands of men end their porn use for good, I’d like to first share a story.

This is a story about a man in his early 40s. To protect his privacy, I’m gonna call him "Bob ".


Bob is a successful senior advisor in the finance industry. He has been married to Mary for over 15 years and he is blessed with 2 kids. Bob is also a well-respected man in his local community. He serves as a deacon of his church and he also contributes to local charity events frequently.

However, Bob also has a little dirty secret that no one knows, not even his wife nor his pastor.

Late at night, after Mary has gone to bed, he’d go to his “man cave” and spend hours alone on his computer looking at explicit material.

Bob didn’t know that he had an out of control habit at all. In his head, it’s just a normal habit that all men do to relax from work. Little did Bob know the damage that has been done to his unconscious mind.

Thanks to the global situation, Bob spent more time in his “man cave” for both work and pleasure.

He increased his frequency of porn use as his work is getting more stressful. Sometimes, he would even watch it for hours until 4-5am in the morning - just hours before he had to show up for work conferences online.

Even though it is obvious that his out of control habit affected his work performance, somehow, Bob was still not seeing the issue.

Over time, regular porn was no longer satisfying for Bob anymore .

So, Bob started to connect with others via video to act out scenes that would satisfy him. The more he used it to “connect” with partners online, the less time he spent with his family .

Whenever Mary asked Bob about his lack of presence, he just lied and said that he’s been busy with “work” while mentally justifying himself of his “downtime activity”.

Bob’s wife had no reason to question him as he is only spending “his privacy in his man cave”

As Bob spent more time on all kinds of porn sites, he started clicking on ads to meet with women in his area.

After wasting some money clicking on around, Bob didn’t learn from his mistakes. Instead, he felt like he needed to act on the fantasy. And due to the increase of his “man cave” time, it’s been a while since he’s been intimate with his wife.

Bob created a few alias profiles on various platforms and dating apps. At first, he convinced himself that he was “just chatting around”. Unfortunately, the more he chatted around, the more he built up his urge to act out.

One weekend, Mary and the kids went out of town to visit family. Bob stayed home to finish up some of his work projects. As the weekend goes by, the quiet house highlighted Bob’s loneliness. Instead of focusing on work, he started making plans with anonymous women he had met online.
That weekend was the first time he was unfaithful to his wife.

Out of guilt and shame , Bob never uttered a word to anyone about his infidelity and Mary didn’t seem to suspect anything. He swore to himself that was the last time he would do that. In order to medicate the guilt and shame, he started looking at explicit material multiple times daily

As the Corona virus quarantine loosened up, Bob started to go back to his office for work. One day, Bob forgot to take his phone to work. Mary, who was working from home found it and saw a few message notifications which came in - they were from the apps Bob had been active on.

Suspicious, but not wanting to confronting Bob directly, Mary started to investigate the computer in his “man cave”. She couldn't find any concrete evidence.
In order to be certain, she hired a private investigator to shadow Bob during a weekend when she was out of town.

Bob was observed meeting up with a prostitute at a hotel. Mary couldn’t believe the photos that the private investigator took.

That evening, Bob came clean with everything - including all of the sleepless nights he spent in his man cave.

His wife was shocked and couldn’t believe that Bob has been lying and unfaithful to her. That night, Mary gave Bob an ultimatum... he had to fix his compulsive sexual behaviors.

Otherwise, she would leave with the kids...

Brother, if you have similar experiences with Bob - you are not alone. Many successful married men have acted out especially during these unprecedented times.

But anyone reading this knows one thing for sure: Overindulgence in pornography and masturbation has serious negative consequences.

When you look around you and wonder why our society is over sexualized, just know that it isn’t by accident.

Sex sells and thanks to the internet, we live in a world that has more people with an out of control habit than ever before. Our doctors, pastors, teachers, parents, and protectors (the crowd) are all counted among the victims.

No matter where you are in your journey with this - maybe you are three decades in, or just 3 years in, this is a journey of failure. You will fail your way to freedom.

Just don’t be the one who fails and justifies their failure by joining the crowd.

When your addiction has driven you to the edge, it is this same crowd that will deny that you have a problem. The crowd will minimize it. And when you act out, this same crowd will condemn you, lynch you, brand you as damaged, and cast you out.

Are you Ready to Save Your Marriage, Your Family Life, and End Your Addiction to Porn in the Next 90 Days?

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Your brother in this struggle,
J.K Emezi"