I’m sorry if this doesn’t belong here, but I thought that I would ask it because this community seems to be very helpful. I’m finding myself struggling with needed constant reassurance from my wife. It’s not only about the no PM area, but in many different areas in our relationship. Does anyone else struggle with this or have any advice for me? She’s very supportive and does give me the reassurance, but I can tell at times that it does bother her.
Day 10 Some good reading in here. I don't really have much to add. I'm battling everyday against the dopamine urges. I've already had two wet dreams, which shows my body needs to get used to not releasing, but the texture of my penis is already changing thanks to not masturbating. The skin is tougher. I think the fish oil was the cause of my wet dreams (megadosing), so I'm taking it in the mornings instead of evenings, which should stop them.
I had one pretty explicit dream of myself, it was saucy Joke aside i didnt knew the brain would be so obsessed to regenerate that dopamine, even through nightdream. I wouldnt explain it in any other way.
im sorry jedi i never had a relationship like that. maybe in reddit if you look for key words like marriage or something someone have a good answer or here in this page if you search. day 10✅ feeling a void lately. i guess you all now what i mean. but i hasnt happen me in a long time. not food or tv or cell or even good things kill it. im not depressed like i was a year ago im very happy with life but sometimes im bored by the routine. i think i have to change that. my biggest desires are a relationship with a woman and an own buisness i will work for that "always remember your focus determines your reality" Master qui gonn.
Thank you for sharing your opinion with us. Success in your training, the key is always to stand up and keep trying, little by little you will get better and eventually you will achieve it. Everyone must think about what the parameters or limits will be to maintain the streak. In my case, the hard mode is actually the easiest, because without exception each and every time I've peeked I've lost either that same day or at most a day or two later. If you decide to keep seeing p subs it is your decision, I really hope that the method works for you, however, if you allow me to give you some friendly advice, I see that as self-sabotage, since from the point of view of dopamine, for the brain there is no difference between watching p sub or explicit pornography, the amount of dopamine released is identical and the effects that occur in the brain and the body are also identical. If you spend 90 days doing MO but not P you will notice some changes and improvements, but if you go 90 days doing P but not MO, you will not notice any change or improvements, and in fact, some symptoms may have worsened, for example, that you have become immune to that amount of dopamine, so you must see increasingly strange or degrading content to feel the same level of pleasure. I know it's different, but imagine an alcoholic decides he won't drink beer anymore, but continues to drink wine, has he really stopped being an alcoholic? Similarly, if someone wants to stop watching P, but continues to watch P-subs, have they really beaten porn? Sorry for this unsolicited opinion, but believe me I do it with the best intentions because I want to see you succeed not only in this streak, but in your life in general, I hope you achieve all your goals. Keep moving forward, never give up.
Day 39 checking in! Stressful and tiring day in the morning, but in the afternoon things started to pick up, and even though I had a couple of really strong attacks, I forced myself to think about other things, focused on my goals, and managed to keep my streak going. I don't know if it's true or not, but I notice more attention from women towards me, on several occasions I've noticed girls staring at me while I'm walking down the street. Today a girl I know asked me out in the morning, she totally took me by surprise, but I had to finish some urgent paperwork and I couldn't waste a second, so I had to say no, but I invited her to dinner this Friday and she agreed, I feel totally different than I did at the beginning of the year, it's been a long road to get here, but this has only just begun, I will continue my training
Day 2 Yes CosmeFulanito, I understand I know what you mean. I'm going to try to keep this brief. I don't understand this whole justification with as long as you avoid P as long as possible but touching yourself is ok. Where is the logic in that? And the P-subs I have gotten better on my side. As I said and it is getting better and under control. Here in this challenge it is strongly discouraged here but I were to go back to one of my previous challenge that I did then it can only be 5 - 10 mins of looking at P-subs. Then looking and peeking a couple times on P-subs is a reset. Um what? Again I can avoid 100% with no MO if I was only doing Semen Retention. The P thing will take time for me. Obviously, since we are in Hard Mode I can't look at it at all. I don't look at it but sometimes I do come across unintentionally I can't control that. Just again in my opinion, it's not much as bad even if you were to fall for the trap on long at it let's say 10 - 20 mins looking at P. But still resisted to not MO during that sound much better. Obviously, whether we are in Hard Mode or not; we have to avoid P or P related content because it must be remove completely eventually in this journey. Lastly, MO doesn't make any sense at all. I have a rant with that. If people say looking at P is bad, to me MO or M or edging it is just as the same if not even more pathetic without P. Just saying my opinion. I hope your success with your streak as well too. Thank you and just my thoughts fellow Jedi. That's it. This scenario if they showed Vader doing the deed to the Younglings (killing). Yes, I think I remember playing this mod in the past. I loved that game. I might rethink to download it because playing this mod was fun. Vader out Keep training
Day 0 My favourite youtuber just posted a 100 days challenge. Which includes just having the same routine for 100 days. Just working like a robot. And also not working till failure. Just working 80% and not 100%, in this way we will last for more days in the long run and not need a lot of rest. I think this challenge is really interesting and the perfect solution to my problems. I think I will focus on this instead of nofap and let nofap happen on its own because fapping is not in my routine. Good luck fellow aspirants on your respective journeys.
Day 9 check in! Made it through yesterday. Was a little bit of a rougher day not so much with the urges or thoughts just more with drama that’s going on in my life. I’m trying to stay positive and not dwell on the negative as to not activate the thoughts or urges to escape. Day 10 here I come.
That's my problem as well. Whatever I'm doing to fill the huge gap from no PMO, I just find it so boring. I guess that's the price we pay for healing our dopamine receptors. Thankfully, I still remember the joy I experienced as a child and early teens when I read a book, a Sudoku, or even eating a meal. They were joyous experiences. Now, there's no spark, or colour in anything. It's boring, and I'm having to force myself to do these other activities. However long it takes to heal these pesky dopamine receptors, we're just going to have suffer until they regenerate.
Day 40 checking in! Relatively quiet day, making some preparations, this Sunday I'm going on vacation to Spain for the next few weeks, in theory I hope to have internet wherever I go, and I hope to be able to continue connecting to the forum every day, but if I disappear for several weeks at least now you will know why, but whether I connect or not, I can assure you that I will continue to do my best every day.
Day 10 check in! I made it through the day pretty easily. I’m keeping myself busy around the house, working out, cooking, learning to play chess and reading. I’m noticing that through the day thoughts and urges are starting to be nonexistent and at night where I felt most vulnerable are starting to lighten up as well. My meditation and reflection has been great and helping me to stay centered. Day 11 is gonna be a cake walk!
Day 3 Oh boy, sometimes I do get caught up with these damn P-subs. But I escaped it. My new one is Pinterest now. Not new but of recently it is getting there. Sometimes I go there because of an email notification. Me trying to casually look for regular photos then that place has trigger photos spread out there. That's it. Did I say this before here? Tip: This is journey is not "autopilot". Someone was using this mentality in a previous challenge of mine. This person is a real addict and struggling as well just other people over there as well. Your attacks will be randomized. Just because you experience no attacks for a week or so, doesn't mean it won't stop. If you leave an opening or become complacent eventually you will get attacked unexpectedly. As someone said in a previous challenge "The fortress is under attack". Yes, it is true lol. I know my attacks in certain days as I move up with my days but since coming back from a recent relapse; it comes often almost every day. It comes at least for the entire week then it subsides a bit. Any way, no matter what streak, attacks will never stop. @JEDI KNIGHT I feel and sense you are in void. It is kind of important to work on yourself during your journey of NoFap. Not just avoiding PMO. Making the days count as best as possible as well. For me, let's say I have a lot more to do then just this NoFap journey. I'm not done and I still need to finish stuff. That is why I will keep saying to myself I don't need to stress of having a woman just yet. The more and more I keep thinking about it then that can lead to a relapse. For you, if you have settled things in life then I suggest you can just work towards finding woman and other personal goals as well while doing this NoFap journey. Let's go fellow Jedi brother. JEDI KNIGHT will be Jedi Knight by this late December. Lastly, damn you Luxor I will catch up to you Jedi Master lol. Just doing my best here every day. Still reconsidering should I consider to give this another go even if I fail after reaching 20 - 30 days on Hard Mode here? Maybe a couple more times since I already made a few changes on my strategy. Still keeping the same ones that I always been using thus far. Like I said it is small tweaks and fixes then I know I will succeed here. I am still thinking about it giving it a couple more tries on Hard Mode because of my tweaks on this journey. Lastly, I was angry and mad earlier. When I have anger in me, if this one was good enough for me then it drives me not to PMO. Not withdrawal symptoms though. Anger and depression can be a reason for me not to do it. I will take that. Let's fellow Jedis. The darkside is always pulling me. Vader out Keep training
i came across a nofap Naruto discord, ranks are updated weekly, there are teams too, 50 members i think, so its a dope small community, very accountable too, got a link from the creator if anyone is interested,link below
Day 11 check in. After reading what @LLOYYD posted yesterday I noticed that I had a thought or rather a memory of a p video pop into my head randomly yesterday. That isn’t something that has happened yet during this journey. I was able to refocus my brain and let it pass by, but it got me thinking if that was an attack like he had said or possibly what an attack for me might start as. Nothing more happened throughout the day with me keeping myself busy m. My night time seems to be better than it was when I first started, but I’m going to keep a closer eye on myself and my brain going forward to better understand myself and these thoughts/urges when they arise. Day 12 you’re going down!
