Is a man's worth measured by the size of his penis?

Sometimes after a hard training session I’d quickly get changed hoping no one would see my bulge or lack of. Apparently blood is needed elsewhere in the body when being active and takes it away from the genitals and digestive system. So how come some lads would proudly whip down their shorts and and stroll about chatting in their pants pretending to be casual and packing (Obviously showers or this mechanism doesn’t really apply to them) I feel the quicker and more subtle you try and get dressed the more obvious it will look; trying not to trip over whilst putting your trousers on. I know I’ve had the odd comment and sly remark. But then I’m supposed to think I was being paranoid! Some of the time I could of been, but comments make you like that. The thought of cold water swimming or wearing a wetsuit in a busy environment would scare the shit out of me. And have took boner pills on holiday to get more blood into it before. After these training sessions at times I would sit on the computer researching/obsessions flaccid penises. Most of the time you’d come across hung lads jogging naked or posing. Mine certainly doesn’t look like that I’d think as I’d slump into my chair with a sigh. But if I think about it: the showers and the big guys are the ones wanting to get it out and show it off on the internet not the average or below. More searching. I’d come across the nude blacks. A naked rugby team who runaround the pitch in their birthday suits. This seemed more like I was..ish, maybe I was still on the small end of that scale, fully turtled anyway. But it was impressive to see these guys run about not worrying they were in their smallest state. With women watching and cheering on. The best looking guy probably had the smallest but didn’t seem too bothered. So why would I get these comments and jives? If 10 out of 11 players were this small. Because people pick up on insecurities and have a lot themselves. I guess lads can be lads and not mean anything but bravado and some people feel threatened so look at ways to bring you down. Some shitty girls will do this as they know it’s our ackilies heel. Yet don’t actually care that much and can’t stand it when it hurts them in bed. It certainly doesn’t look like pleasure with some girls I’ve boned. But I guess that ego’s need of having more and bigger is better is what insecure people like myself try and strive for. Competition and comparing is quite primitive and imbedded probably. Have you seen Tom hardy naked Bronson scene he’s more than happy to run around set and acting for the whole world to see in a shrivelled state. I’m sure he’s got no shortage of sexual offers. I think it shows a lot more confidence and courage for a small or average guy to stand there and not give a shit than some idiot that’s always trying to prove to you that their flaccid has more blood in or a bigger shape. Having chats with you in his pants, standing in the gym mirror totally naked doing his hair and always wanting to be around men when he’s got his Willy out! Bit weird really.

 

I’ve really been struggling with this. I used to be very big flaccid and erect. After lots of MO and no morning wood for 6 years my flaccid and erect size has shrunk and I have no idea how to get it back. Did 60 days nofap and went to 2 urologists. I’m constantly depressed and even too self conscious to wear sweatpants now. I wish this didn’t happen to me

 

Have you tried pumping? Not the best option but if you’ve tried everything else it might be worth a go. For some men with severe ED I think they use a cock ring and pump before sex!

 

I find that jerking off or acting out in shameful sex makes me far more concerned about my size. The sayings right I’ve definitely got more balls/confidence when I keep it in and even if it is shrivelled it feels loaded and ready to spring into action if needed. If I’m all empty from MOing I feel a bit spineless with no healthy drive to find a female and concerned I’m small.

 

think about all the benefits of having a small flaccid penis. it would be so annoying having a large thing down there all the time. it would keep getting pinched in your cloaths, and just be an overall faf. also id hope no one is taking a peek at your penis in changing rooms that would be very rude

 

I grew up in a conservative Christian environment where we never got fully naked in a locker room... I was never worried about how big my penis was. Porn didn't make me worried. The only thing that made me worried was when other people said it mattered.

Even now tho, flaccid size doesn't matter to me. Why does it matter how big your penis is flaccid if no one sees it? As Agent says, you can just stick small things anywhere... which is very true for my flaccid.

 

True. And if you had a big one, everytime you took a poop … it would drop down into the toilet water!

 

You probably became unable to have a full erection due to PMO. Most Fapstronauts on Reddit report NoFap solves it. In my case they hardened, but I don't pay attention to size as to notice enlargement. Some even argue of an increased penis size. No idea why it happens, though.

 

Ok so for me in puberty for some reason my balls didn’t drop and they were tight to my body and my penis was also turtled up. I’m not sure if this was down to having a toss every night maybe 2, smoking too much pot, being stressed, nervous or introvert, being a grower not a shower or because I was embarrassed I was still a virgin. Even when it was summer it would be tight and I could notice other lads were hanging loose, or id notice the 100 m athletes on tele swinging away when they ran! Obviously we compare as humans and something didn’t seem right. I remember watching fight club stoned and Edward whatever his face sees a Calvin Kline billboard and says is that what a real man looks like referring to the small bulge I imagine. Then Brad Pitt laughs and says “ Masterbation self improvement or self destruction” I thought shit have I messed myself up from Pmoing too much. Later down the road still wondering when my bits are going to drop. A girl noticed my small bludge when I was wearing shorts and pointed it out to my friend who laughed. She was a spoilt little b and decided to do a smear campaign that I’ve got a small one. Which in some sense it was. An innuendo was made for me. So when I’d go to the bar urinals I’d be really conscious of how much blood it had in it. With people making comments and whispering it made me really paranoid . I was smoking a lot of pot so this didn’t help. The weird thing was when I finally lost my virginity and went to the toilet hay presto what do I see? 2 swinging balls and an biggish engorged penis/ proof I’m not small. A few days later it’s back shrivelled up again damn! Was it because I’d had an Mo, was it cold, was it the weed or was I just obsessing over it that much it went into fight or flight mode? Blood needed in muscles to run or fight. There was some weird mental block going on Anyway. The problem is when you’re worried about your size, obsessed and paranoid people presume one thing… The rumour followed me like a scrounging dog! A girl turned me down in the pub saying like I’m going with you and your little d..! When youve had enough people make a comment about it. You start to think there must be something wrong. I was not getting much local pusssy so I’d have an escort now and again. I got pretty good in the bedroom and would look in the mirror afterwards whilst semi and think “ what the hell are you worried about dude that’s a good’n” A nice temporary high, ego and penis inflation. Off I’d stroll with my swinging balls again. Please don’t retract again id think still obsessing. It even made me pretty meek and agreeable incase someone I got in an argument with would use it and smash my glass house I felt I was living in. I’m a lot better with it now. But still have times when it’s shrivelled in a public changing rooms it takes me back to the insults.

 

I’m a newbie however penis size has always been an issue for me but not in that way. I consider myself lucky that I’m just below average erect. Why? Well it’s easy to tuck in my waist band. It’s easily hidden and I have yet found another male partner that really thought sized mattered. I mean I would dread the thought of sitting in a college class (years ago now) with a boner that was 7 inches long! What am I supposed to do with that can’t very well hide that in my gym shorts now can I!! Anyway everyone already said it’s just perception but what I have found for myself at least once I get into a relationship with someone they are very happy with my flaccid size (rather shocking one might say) and my erect size because when it comes down to it. That thing can be 20 foot long doesn’t matter if you don’t know what to do with it. (Experience taught me that) The porn is fake the noise is fake! It’s all bs!! Embrace your size and you will soon find others that will as well! Remember when you get with her about her O. Take care of her that’s all that really matters!

 

I would say that I have a hard time keeping a consistent size because I always nervous if I am turned on, but I don't think it makes much of a difference if you have no confidence. Which is something I struggle with it sucks being a twenty year old and you still feel anxious when talking with a woman.

 

He means the Greek slaves - not really racist.

 

He wants to start hitting cervixes, basically.

 

I’d say size doesn’t really have much to do with women in the big picture. Maybe a woman gets a little extra turned on during the sex if the size is bigger than average… but large size just by itself is not enough to keep the woman.

there are other factors for a woman’s survival such as a safe place to sleep, adequate food supply, level of fun and positive emotions she is having

Large penis size may increase levels of fun and positive emotions temporarily for the woman, but it doesn’t satisfy the other requirements. Also, the longer the woman has sex with the man, the more she would get used to the size, so the initial shock value would wear off and the amount of positive emotions related to large size would diminish as time went on

further, there is also the emotional aspect and intimacy for a woman. A mentally healthy, normal woman desires not only physical intimacy, but also emotional intimacy and deep intimate bonding with words as well as touching. So again, a large penis size may help slightly with the physical intimacy portion, but not much else

So overall, penis size has minimal overall effect

I think maybe the only reason you think this is because of porn videos which depict a woman getting dominated by a man with a large penis and the woman becomes his personal sex slave or something like that

I’m fairly certain real life isn’t like that.

 

A mans worth is based on abit more than that. If you have got a small ding dong make it up with your foreplay and use your charisma and action to make her feel some type of way. Nobodies perfect but if you come across that you are insecure and care about ur dingaling then she can tell that you lack confidence so find something to make up for that such as your confidence looks charisma foreplay.

 

OMG, thank you for sharing this!! It really helps. Sometimes mine almost seems big to me when it's engorged and in all it's glory. (Fact is, it's a short 4.5" fully erect, but decently thick). However, regardless of erect size, most of the time out in the world it is flaccid and with mine also being turtled up, maybe less blood due to my low T and high anxiety / high cortisol, having MO'd a few thousand times more than anyone should in a lifetime, smoking pot and worrying about it - it's just so hard not to worry about it! In changing rooms with strangers, friends, even co-workers . . . it fills me with terror. I feel so meek turning to hide what I have, but how can one boldly stand there with a flaccid barely larger than a thimble?

To the thread in general: just yesterday I was in an awkward position with a co-workers bulge in front of my face and I had to do a double take - God how I hoped no one noticed (including him!) that I couldn't not take a second look at his bulge!
The bulge was so obvious and it was clear that his flaccid was easily longer than my erect but also much thicker. Ugh. I can't stop thinking about it and how ridiculously small mine is in comparison.
If anyone doubts that vary enormously in length and thickness, just go to a changing room and take a look. There is definitely a lot of variation and generally bigger is better.

So, my thought on the subject - no, a man is not measured by the size of his penis, though it may be one factor in the overall assessment by potential mates and perhaps even peers.
The penis itself definitely is measured by size. It's a fact. Longer and thicker generally make for a more impressive penis . . . unless you can't get it up. That's number one and luckily we have NoFap to help many of us who've created problems with our excessive PMO. A big flaccid will generally make an impression on everyone, men and women - but a fully functioning penis is a critical component of a satisfying sex life for most people.

 

True. It's a thing. The old A-spot. Some women find it painful, many find it pleasurable, and some will orgasm from it. The women that orgasm from it often become true "size queens". That's just life. It's sad that there's a percentage of women who will never be satisfied with those of us with small or even average penises. Such women are, in one sense, "out of our league". But most women are not in that category.

And if you really think about it - it's kind of sad for the size queens - these poor women might find the perfect guy over and over again only to have to keep looking to find a guy who's big enough.

 

I have adhd also so a lot of ruminating, feeling I don’t measure up in life, comparing and very self critical. Eckhart Tolle refers to it as the pain body which we feed with negativity and more pain. I feel really crap about myself at times then act out in punishing or degrading acts almost as an escape to get away from my nagging mind. And to except I’m crap. It gives me a rush then feel 10 times worse after.

 

I’ve got a lot better about the size of my flaccid. I’ve actually done quite a bit of stretching and pumping so my flaccid is actually bigger. But now I’m obsessed with my hand size. I always thought they were pretty average and not working man’s hands but wasn’t really bothered. I actually got a complex from a counsellor. ( I think he was testing to see how I’d respond, or was annoyed id kept relapsing; a bit confusing. But he said you’ve got really small hands for a big guy! Thanks a lot 3 years later obsessed about my hands now.