I am now using all these graphical porn to satisfy my needs and I really taking steps to overcome them but nothing seems to work. I am really worried about this now. I am now no longer watching that human-directed porn rather I watch digitally created ones. Deep inside me, I know that its wrong but can't help. After every 3 days, I happen to relapse to porn now. I waste a lot of time on it say 5-6 hours. Guys, I really need your help please show me the correct path to overcome this nonsense.
It's a very tough addiction to master. Longest streak I ever had was 2 years. Average streak for me is about 6 weeks. Best advice I can give is you have to go scorched Earth. I use Detoxify porn blocker app on my phone. It's sad to admit but I can't own a laptop, iMac Smart TV or any other technology that gives me access or I will relapse. My 2-year streak clean I had no smartphone, computer or any TV. I used flip phone, read books and and enjoyed beautiful nature while hiking. Good luck bro, this form exists for support in thisiissue
For PC use cold turkey blocker, It's a great tool. I was a porn gamer and I always justified it by saying to myself "It's not real, Unlike porn nobody is getting hurt or humiliated" but it always leads me to real porn so I decided to cut that off too.
I've been in this boat. Porn games like these, for me, are a substitute for life. You have to put it down and walk away, live your own life. You might have to de-escalate back to regular porn if you don't have the will power.
A lot of people saying install blockers. I disagree, if you are making the decision to quit porn out of free will after deciding that it's unnatural and know that you will be more whole preserving your dopamine receptors for real sex and intimacy. Why should you tell yourself that you're incapable of abstaining porn without things like a blocker? It's all in principle, if you believe porn is hard to quit, then it will be
I would suggest connecting with real people in person, face to face for the recovery process and not just posting or even Zoom meetings. Even if you are only doing a little to start that's like a lifeline to reality. Sometimes I wonder if people won't be able to pass a recovery Turing test, like they can plug into some AI and be convinced they are doing recovery and not have any sense they are missing anything. But basically if someone has a more general tech addiction and they only recognize porn, they can just use the rest of the tech addiction and be convinced they are getting somewhere. (and of course, blockers are a form of tech too) I don't think people should have black and white judgments about tools but just not to be dependent on them forever. I hesitate to mention this in case people take it the wrong way but it's relevant as far as relating to people in person. I've been seeing someone and I basically instantly stopped PMO completely. I don't think that's an unqualified universal solution which is like putting the cart before the horse, but a lot has to do with how she's just a caring amazing person. There's another woman half my age that's showing a little interest who is very attractive, but at this point I recognize there's no good reason for me to pursue that and it's probably just a matter of curiosity on her part. But I do think it's both a matter of showing up and connecting in person and also getting to a place where I can appreciate something good when it shows up, which isn't a matter of number of days but a matter of perspective.
5 to 6 hours is a lot of time wasted on porn. I was wasting about that much time or more, at your age. Perhaps your family can provide some support?
Longer streaks doesn't necessarily mean better. I've seen people on high streaks who are still depressed and still counting their days without porn. It's a sad trap because it's almost as if you're waiting for yourself to get better. No. I say, put effort into bettering yourself, to be able to make the decision to master your impulses, attain self control. If you were to go to a holiday house, where there are no blockers, will you be able to handle your impulse to watch porn? Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying blockers are bad, but if you use it to put off responsibility from not being in control of your every decision, then sure, you will get longer streaks than the person who is without blockers and trying to quit porn himself, however you will as a consequence, have less experience and therefore less knowledge in managing impulse. So in the long run, who is really better?
You are right I remember that when I had a 30+ days streak in December I wasn't that happy how I am right now with 2 days streak and I have also loaded all my devices with most blockers possible. But what I find is the best trick is to keep yourself busy. I have found that when I don't feel like doing something and my mind asks to change the topic but if I still keep myself indulged in it I become vulnerable to porn at that moment and end up relapsing.
I mean I get what you're saying, what your describing is what I would call "purist" and I agree that it would demonstrate a better mastery of sexual impulses to be able to have self control even with access. For me, at least right now, I need the guardrails. I love how I feel spiritually speaking when I'm clean from this stuff so if a blocker helps, I'll use a blocker. I don't think I would act out in a guest house or anything like that, it's more when I'm on my own in my apartment. Anyways, we all have to walk our own paths here, good luck.
