I don't know how, but for the last 2 days I'm constantly having urges, from the moment I wake up to the moment I fall asleep. And I started realizing that my body and part of my mind craves pmo so much, that I somehow miss it and my whole body aches from urges, so strong they are. But if I go back to doing pmo I know it's gonna be even worse, because if I do that I'm gonna lose the streak, I'm gonna feel very bad afterwards and I'm gonna regret, but still I'm gonna do it like at least 3 or 4 times more (like in the past I always relapsed multiple times after relapsing once). So, despite my extreme urges and negative emotions I just hope it's gonna pass, but I feel very anxious and not in the mood to do anything productive. It's almost like pmo became a part of me and doesn't want to be eliminated from me. It's also almost like I was feeling better when I was doing pmo or at least mo, I didn't have such urges and there wasn't chaos in my mind like now...
Keep urself motivated and how hard ur brain tells u to fap. Just ignore them and be strong. This urges won’t stop, u have to adopt them and live peacefully Now this is my 14th day of NoFap. Still i feel the urges. We have more to do and more to go
I was also like this.. Using only mo instead of pmo... But the problem with this approach is that with time mo isn't enough and you have to switch back to pmo, this is the reason why I don't use this approach anymore, because even if you're doing only O or only M or MO together you (at least me) will always go back to p
Dude I get it. For me it's been over 7 months since I stopped looking at porn and I still have cravings. It's why I'm here right now posting this. Because when I'm really struggling with a craving I type nofap into the browser bar instead or porn hub and I come here to get my head straight. I posted a thread a while back on what helps me stay clean. Maybe some of the tips there will help you too. https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...vice-to-change-your-life.338310/#post-3444364 The struggle is real. But the only way to get clean is to stay clean. You can do it brother. Good luck.
No I can not go back to either pmo nor mo... It's too detrimental for me, too harmful. It gives me too much headaches and other pains. It makes me feel horrible...
I figured something out. And this is that instead of doing doing pmo I ate big amount of foods that contain sugar. I feel much better and relaxed now. I know it's not the best strategy especially in the long run. But this is the only and the best one option I have. It's still much better for me and my body and mind to eat an excessive amount of sugar than to do pmo...
This is a list of foods which contain high amount of sugar I ate in order to escape from my urges: I started with 1 very tasty raspberry donut, continued with a glass of strawberry juice, then I drank a can (250 ml) of Aloe Vera, drank some Coca Cola (few sips), drank some Oshee drink (few sips) , ate an ice cream and chew a lot of chewing gums. Then I also drank a can (333 ml) of mixed juice. I did all these things in a span of 5 hours.
That'll work for a while because you're replacing one dopamine hit with another. But I really strongly recommend against it. Your basically replacing heroine with cocaine laced with fentanyl. Find a healthy way to produce dopamine. Start lifting weights. Get jacked. Like stupid jacked. You'll feel a lot better and chicks will throw themselves at you. And you won't go blind and have your feet rot off. Diabetes is no joke my friend. It's one of the worst ways to go.
I miss it too, but leave it alone. It's amazing what can happen when you take away just that one variable, porn.
But my intent isn't to get as much girls as possible, I want to improve myself and keep one girl. Anyway, thanks for advice. I already had problems with diabetes so I guess you're right.
I don't think getting as many chicks as possible is a good thing. I have one wife and I'm committed for better or for worse. But you want to have options. When women start throwing themselves at you you can choose which one you want to commit to. You don't want to be in a position where you have to settle. You want to be able to be selective. Choosing a mate, especially if you want kids, is one of the most important decisions in your life.
Honestly man. I'm kinda struggling tonight. The state of the world has my family struggling financially and the industry I'm in is struggling and things are getting darker and darker. I'm depressed and feeling kind of hopeless and helpless and that makes me want dopamine and that makes me crave porn. So instead I typed nofap into my phone and came here instead. It's kind of a tough night. The kind that really makes me want to give up. But then my kids tell me how much they love me and how much I mean to them and I feel like I can't give up because then they'd have to go on without me. So I'm still hanging on. But I'm not doing great tonight. Hope I'm doing better tomorrow. Hope you're doing well. Good luck king.
But why don't you go to your wife and satisfy you and her, why in the world would you choose porn over your wife?
What I feel helps me to stay away from porn is just thinking how it harms me. Whatever affection I have had towards porn stars and nude models, it's gone now. How I see those is people harming me. It doesn't matter even if they actually didn't want to harm me because they do. It's just common sense to close them off my life. I feel no interest to see them again. I still can't quit MO but I hope quitting P will make MO boring enough to quit it.
This is a great question and is a big part of what makes porn so insidious. Having sex with my wife means having to meet her needs. It means caring about her preferences. It means spending time with her, seeing her as a unique person with their own desires and meeting those desires. What porn does is it gives you dopamine without having to care about another human being. Worse, you have to actively not care about the fact that you are watching two deeply traumatized people be retraumatized for your enjoyment. It is not just unempathetic, you have to actively kill your empathy to engage in porn usage. I love my wife. In a moment when I'm fiending for porn it's not because I don't want to or can't have sex with my wife. It's because my brain wants a quick fix. I don't want to have to care about her. I want my nut. So I'll feel better *right now.* Porn gives you that. In my case, I also have my own issues with intimacy with my wife because of her past infidelity. So in addition to struggling with overcoming the desire to take the easy route rather than the meaningful one, I also actively don't want to have sex with my wife and I'm really struggling with that. The whole reason I quit porn to begin with was to try to force myself to have sex with her. So when I feel the desire for porn it not only fulfills my need for a fix, it is also an easy way to avoid facing my own struggles in my marriage. I wish there was an easy solution. I wish I could just turn it off. I've been off porn for 10 months. And today I had a really shitty day and it was the only drug I wanted. I settled for sugar, caffeine, alcohol, synthetic cannibus, and nicotine. And yes I'll have sex with my wife later too. But despite all that my mind still wants to just fire up porn and go right back to the start. It sucks. Kicking the habit wasn't the hardest part for me. Not watching porn for the last 10 months hasn't been so hard. Now *wanting* to watch porn is a lot tougher.
