"just one last time" (my mind)

It's a mindset for me. I turned that "one last time" into a "never the hell again" It took a long time to cultivate this mindset but now when I get an urge, it doesn't frighten me into submission. Im firmly in my decision never to go back and this freed my mind to look at the problem more closely and face the things that I need to face.

But there is something else to crush that "one last time" thinking and that is purpose. You have to set something else in motion for yourself. Something that excites you to wake up in the morning and put energy into. There is something out there for everyone and it goes hand in hand with making a firm decision.

 

Congratulations, alcohols is such a nasty thing to be addicted to, it has the power to take everything from you. You are very lucky.

I don't know exactly what happened. I have made firm decisions in the past but they were just desperate attempts to close the door on it. This time something just clicked and the fighting in my head has gone away. I know the pain it brings and my firm decision revolves around never letting me go down that road again.

So realise that there is no going back and there will be no space in your mind for second thinking. I have been spending years trying to quiet this addiction and the amount of effort and energy that has gone into it is crazy. Only to discover that actually it doesn't have to be a struggle at all. Make the desision and be happy to face the darkness knowing that a better life is to come from it.

Good luck

 

I used to think "one last time." Or "if I do this, it will satisfy me, I won't need to do it again."

Overtime I looked at the results of that "one last time." It was a spiral down from "one last look at this picture", to "one look at a soft porn" to "one look at hardcore..." and sometimes even worse.

One last time is one step toward getting into addiction. And I never want to go there again.

But making the last time the last time, one day at a time, makes a much more satisfying life.

 

One last time is an exponential number.
I think you just have to break the habit with something new

 

you don't fight an addiction by giving the monster what it wants, which is more of the substance your brain is addicted to. You fight it by depriving the addiction monster of its only resource it can live by.
You don't give a heroin addict some more heroin and then say: "this is your last time, promised?" The monster is then fed again and it will only want more, not less. That's how and addiction works, it'll always want more, not less.
Stop kidding yourself by saying "one last time" or "i'm going to gradually decrease the amount of porn/ any addictive substance until i don't wanna do it anymore". You don't kill the monster that way. You just keep giving greasing the waterslide.
What you have to do, is change your mindset. You have to know that you don't need porn any longer, that you are free of that nasty, pathetic habit before you do it one last time. Before you do it the last time, say these words out loud: this is my last ever time i will watch porn, after this i will be free of the chains of this monster. Then watch the video very consciously, watch every detail about how it seduces you (bigger, brighter, longer, etc.) and say to yourself how pathetic and fake these strategies of the porn companies are.
But before all of that, you have to change your mindset. (These are all methods from the easypeasi book)

You don't need this. Nobody ever has or will ever need this.

You can do it. Everyone can do it.

 

One bad habit I did manage to kick was smoking, long time ago now. The secret was, I worked out that the craving only lasted as long as it takes to smoke a cigarette. At the time it seems to have incredible urgency, almost like a command - YOU MUST HAVE ONE. But if you can postpone giving in, the urge passes. After years of trying nicotine replacement therapies, that was the very simple method that actually helped me stop. So - don’t give in. It only prolongs the habit, and the urges will pass.

 

I wanna add to my comment.
For an addict 1% is 100%. There is 99% for an addict, you just have to develop other habits and stick with them

 

I remember how I feel after "one last time", how I feel resetting my counter and how I feel the next day.

It isn't worth the misery.