I want to be asexual.

Often thought about it and really wanted it for years. I looked into chemical castration. But it is contraindicated because of certain health conditions I have. But it can be done. You will encounter ethical armaments though - so be prepared.

 

I have a friend who was born asexual. It's also not an easy life. It's been quite painful and isolating for her.

 

I've wanted to do the same thing, and even thought about surgery. It feels like without sexuality I could be such a good person. I've decided that I won't pursue that though. Trying to make yourself asexual is trying to avoid your problems rather than deal with them. Human beings are sexual creatures. It's just a part of what we are. The problem is not your sexuality, the problem is that your sexuality has been twisted into a self serving and overly influential part of you. You don't need to repress that part of you, you need to fix it. That isn't easy, and it will take a long time and a lot of work. My advice to you would be to live as if you were asexual. Don't go looking for a girlfriend, don't do pmo, just live your life, be kind in your thoughts, words, and actions. Educate yourself on the proper role of your sexuality. You can find a lot of great resources online and in books, especially from religious writers. Even if you're an atheist, there is a lot that is simply about the nature of how humans are meant to function from religious sources. Jason Evert is a good example of that.

 

Arguably this is the most safe mindset to approach the subject. As human beings we are supposed to love and feel attracted to other people. We should find the proper way to develop our personality and our manhood/womanhood as well. Many people joined NoFap because pornography prevented this development, including myself. It starts to become clearer the more you progress in your detoxication path.

Every big choice we make should be focused on making us the best possible version of ourselves. If asexuality as a choice is not aligned to this end, then it was not a choice in the first place. Just like porn.

 

You don't WANT to be asexual... You're just using this as an example to suppress or blank out the other things in your life which is controlling you at the moment. Long story - cut short, you're craving the wrong solution for the cause.

It's like a guy who is overweight saying they wish they didn't have any appetite. The reality is they like food, just like we all do, I enjoy a nice T-bone steak, pink in the middle and running with the juices - but you have to moderate your appetite so you don't eat a tonne of crap all the time.

You want a relationship, with a girl, I'm certain of that, and if your HOCD is still playing up, which it will do, remember you have to employ the techniques I've outlined in my e-book EVERY SINGLE day for months if not years.

There's nothing wrong with acknowledging that you desire a relationship and have OCD issues but desiring an absurd solution is NOT the fix. Well that's my opinion.

 

Asexuality has many forms. Some people have no sexual drive at all, others just can´t imagine having sex with an other person but they still masturbate and can feel a relation and connection to an other person from a non sexual point of view.

 

Yes, and if they have no sex drive whatsoever (like my friend) they do still desire human connection. Perhaps with another asexual.

 

It's not an absurd solution. It's a desperate wish. I feel for you @Elnayeeeek. But don't give up on the chance of healing yet.

 

Same thing.

 

Why? But one guy at says he has no sexual feelings and he is happy about it.

I hope that never happens to me

 

As far as I'm concerned, this is a common thing for PMO addicts. P numbs. You don't have to deal with stress, difficult feelings, relationships, conversation. Then you feel shame. So you PMO more to hide from the shame. My husband has really struggled with expressing his feelings and handling mine. He's finally been ready to do the work to work through the feelings instead of avoiding them. Have you gone to a counselor? The right counselor can help a lot. Remember, if you don't click with the first one or that person downplays the problems with porn, you can go to someone else. Not every counselor is right for every person.