What do YOU think is the best way to overcome an urge to PMO in the moment?

"Alone and bored" is what got me into trouble: is there a better Friend than PMO?
Nothing beats that, pun intended.
Now, I know better, and that f-friend game me the gift of PIED, F-that!

Let's keep it up! Pun intended, of course!

 

I asked @fuckyouporn and he said it was mostly this, getting away from the computer. And also in public he's not going to fap. So, say, in the middle of Best Buy. LOL

 

Just do something else, anything else, instead of sexual thoughts or fantasies.

My default is to repeat the affirmation "every day in every way I'm getting better and better".

 

I tend to avoid fantasizing mainly for two reasons:

1. When I fantasize about porn, my brain drives me to look for porn.
2. When I fantasize about a real girl, I get overly attached to the fantasy itself and I become upset if it doesn't play out as I want. Then I try to medicate my discomfort by watching porn.

Fantasizing is basically OK if it doesn't take up much of your time and if it doesn't change appreciably the way you react to real-life situations.

 

I don't fantasize about porn, I do fantasize about past experiences and possible future experiences.

We all need to be aware of what works for us and what doesn't, glad to see you're aware of your triggers.

 

I stop even when I fantasize about my long distance gf. Anything that arouses me, that is not an actual woman there with me, is off limits for me.

Non-sexual fantasies, goals, dreams, creative visualization, that is ok.

 

Is kind of hard for me. I was going to try out the cold showers, but where I live there is no cold water, just warm.
Kind of a bummer for me .

 

What I meant, that (this) addiction works relatively similar in all of us.
We all got somehow addicted to watching porn. (Similar pattern is for example alcohol/smoking altough its a chemical addiction, or fast food, etc ...)

For quitting smoking there are e.g. these nicotine patches. (I don't know how well they work, but studies suggest they help). So if most people get addicted the same way, there should be some recipe/method which works for most people to stop the addiction.
The long way is meditation, mindfulness, awareness & learning "how to deal with the enemy". At least that's what worked for me to reduce fapping/relapsing with a factor over 10.

And maybe more social connections/bonding are a way. I found this interesting video about addiction:

and same content in this TED talk:
Johann Hari: Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong

The portugal solution sounds really awesome & effective and maybe this is a way, to fight addiction in general.

What do you think ?

(and yes, I have this tendency to generalize everything ...)

 

You could take a gallon or two of water and put in the fridge. Then bring it with you in the shower and slowly pour it over you. That could possibly do the trick. It would probably have close to the same effect.

 

What I do is I grab is I go to the bathroom and afterwards, I put an ice pack on my nuts. It will kill the urge.
Many people recommend cold showers for urges but I find it too time consuming and inconvenient which is why I recommend ice packs.
As a last resort, I use support material and will power.

 

The most useful technique I had, when the urges had so much power, was to remember what I was going to feel like later, once I realized what I'd done. That never once failed.

 

thanks to user @wake_up for the video.

What I do to avoid the urge to fap is anticipate my thoughts. This has lead me into a state of more awareness, and as a result, I am sleeping a lot less, and feeling tired.

When it's too late, when the thought is already here, I try the best I can to concentrate on some other thought. And keep my mind busy during the day.

 

I distract myself with reality, people, specifically. PMO has power because we give it power, but if I pull myself out of the convoluted and rationalizing depths of my own mind and just engage in life, the desire for PMO diminishes enough to be ignored. Before I leave the room, I also pray, but not for more than a minute, because it's very easy to slip back into rationalizing when I stay in a room isolated from other people. It helps just to get up and move around the house or go outside.