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1. No Porn.
2. No Masturbation.
3. No Dating Apps.

1. Porn fucks up anyone’s head.
2. Masturbation leaves me content, but fucks up my baseline and stops my movement toward women.
3. Dating apps make me a slave to my phone. The fragmentation of my attention is killing. It tugs and tugs at my needs for love until I masturbate.

I will satiate my human need for love not with masturbation, but with time forming deep connections with people of my choice.

Porn fucks up your mind.

It matters not if I’m unable to use dating apps at peak times like the start of Summer or the start of the semester. It only frees me up to get stronger in other ways as opposed to my competitors. Whether this is by abstinence, by educating, or by getting ahead in my career. I am getting stronger, which will ready me for stronger mates. Better than those on dating apps.

Yes, you will be needy for love and intimacy. But if you’re going to substitute it, don’t sacrifice your vitality in the process. In fact, strengthen your vitality in the process. Fuck masturbation. Be around people of your choice.

Remember the times you woke up early, remember the time you’ve spent in the gym, remember your cold showers.

YOU ARE IN-CHARGE OF YOUR BODY.

A Thought On Dating Apps.
The girls I ask out in-person are usually also on dating apps, or have been on dating apps which affects how they interact with you even as you approach them outside the app. You have a higher success rate outside the app, but more faster shots on the app.

I say you pick one way, shoot a ton of shots in, but in your desired demographic. Like if you’re shooting a ton of shots in-person and you’re a nerd, do it at a nerd club. My thought process is changing, especially since I make money now. I have a few grand saved up and will continue to make money even if I have to find another job. And I don’t have to worry about rent & food because my parents are covering it while I’m in college. I acknowledge my privilege. But with everything in mind (money flowing in, no need to spend it, I’m young so good time to invest in myself, I’m ahead in classes so I will have the time until December in college to spend with girls.) so I can if I pay $170-200 for 12 months of Tinder & 6months of Hinge. With all the features I’m looking for. With it being significantly less frustrating. I honestly see it as a drop in the bucket and an investment in myself. I have one more week of classes/exams/projects but I’ll be more free after that. And the same applies to many other students at my university if not after next week then a week or two after. I say take advantage of my situation (money, ahead in classes, more time, stability, external forces of everyone else having more time for relationships) and start using dating apps after next week.

Could be a terrible idea. But I’m not afraid to give it a shot. As long as I keep my No Porn No Masturbation streak. I think it’s a good chance to develop myself.

I still have the audacity to ask out girls in the real world and I have in the past. But I think I should allow myself to adapt to the fact that
1) dating apps exist, hot girls looking for a real relationship aren’t unlikely to be on them
2) i’m a relatively decent looking guy now. I can be smart about taking a few pictures over the next week
3) i have money to spend on this endeavor. More money than time.