TheLoneWolf88

It's my post nut clarity. I'm really not ok. I'm trying to work my way to getting real sex, but PMO keeps calling my name

Sex is overrated brother. Just think why is your mind absolute shit right now? What was the cause. Is pmo or sex the solution. No

I refuse to believe that sex is overrated. I've craved it since I was 20

Ontario. I'm at a hotel in Niagara Falls. I'm leaving Wednesday morning

Nice. I've heard good things about that area, never been though.

The falls are stunning, especially at night when they get lit up in different colors. Niagara Falls is a HUUUUUGE tourist trap, very congested around the overview of the falls. Already been there three times on this vacation. One to see the falls, second to do the various activities around there, third time to see it at night

Fairly soon, I'll be less and less reliant on porn to ease my stresses

But stay away from porn, I learned that if you mo to porn ur male brain craves more sex and is an endless loop with no satisfaction.Dont worry about rejection I learned its not a reflection of your character you just got unlucky

I'm well beyond dating apps. It's all I've used for the past 14 years, with almost no luck. And zero luck for the last 10 years

Yea I hear ya. It's tough out there. Well try to focus on money, that's what I'm doing. I disconnected from everything mentally. I care about nothing and you know what it actually makes me happy in a way.

I hope you do. Ten years single and a 34 year old virgin. Nobody can understand the heartache and the yearning I feel on most days.

Yeah, I feel this. It's about so much more than just sex. The lack of human contact and overall intimacy is the real killer.

@Talz rushing to get sex wouldn't be as satisfying, but my mind makes me want to go that route more often than I can count. But will I ever get a healthy relationship with this thought like a splinter in my mind? Would it be better to lose my card first so I can stop worrying about it? Or just try to ignore it and try and meet people? These are questions I battle on a daily basis

Hfo is the worst stuff.

on a psychological perspective ,our first years of life we first learn to pacify, soother or mother dearest breast for milk, soothing our fears/pains, we latch on to that mechanism through other means as we grow

understand we dont need to pacify or numb that pains,discomfort, we welcome it, embrace it because that way it helps us to grow,shape us

next time your brain tries to convince you to pmo,say not today ,i well not pacify ,i face the challenge

I don't know if the idea of virginity gives you some anxiety or trouble (I'm virgin too). I'd consider not caring so much about it, it's not healthy, you and I will lose it when the time comes. As for how to reach this time faster, staying away from porn and heal emotionally from what moved us towards porn is a great idea.