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22 days in on Hard mode! need some motivation please

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by hijodelaluna18, Nov 11, 2018.

  1. Nov 11, 2018 #1
    hijodelaluna18

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    Hey guys Im a 18 year PMO addict. Ive been in NOFAP hard mode for 22 days.Its been positive I look better and Im back to socialize and have eye contatc with people among other things...Ive decided to let real encounters happen.Im not callin anyone but if I go out and something happens I will definately O. I want to act as natural as possible durin this reboot aside from bastaining from M of any kind.
    But the thing is yesterday I partied I got to dance and touch several girls even kiss one wich is a big improvement for a guy who has been isolated in his room for years..
    But guys as you can imagine the dancing charged my batteries and I wasnt able to seal the deal.. and today I have a little crisis..its been 22 days on hard mode so please show some love.I want to be able to reboot 3 months on hard mode
     
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  2. Nov 11, 2018 #2
    Maximus Decimus Meridius

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    I'm also going hard mode, though did not have the same social kind of issues. Think about who you are now, and who you want to be? What kind of actions do you have to take to bridge that gap. Do those things, and do them as if your life depends on them. We are on a similar day. This sort of thing isn't easy, but by going after things we want, like grades, girls, athletic events, weight lifting, reading, whatever it is that is your fancy, we can avoid falling into such self-deprecating behaviors. You can do it. I believe in you. HOLD THE LINE! :)
     
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  3. Nov 11, 2018 #3
    Coolyorky

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    I’m day 64! Longest streak ever for me. I suffer pied hence why I’m here. All
    I can say is you’re on the up!! Keep going. If you relapse you’ll be disgusted with yourself brother
     
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  4. Nov 11, 2018 #4
    hijodelaluna18

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    preciate it bro! Yes we are in the same boat Ill keep watching! hard mode is the way to go with me theres no middle point you either do things 100% or dont do them!
     
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  5. Nov 11, 2018 #5
    hijodelaluna18

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    thnks for reminind me how bad it feels to be a weak ass to PMO hey I have PIED too how is it going so far after 64? is mornign wood back? spontaneus erections? hardness?
    CONGRATUATIONS thats a home run!
     
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  6. Nov 11, 2018 #6
    abcdofindia

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    I remember my 20th day was particularly difficult. Tht's always been the most difficult part for me. During that time I usuaully avoid looking at men in general. Because anything can trigger me.
    But my only advice to you will be, just have some patience... your body will eventually work around it... atleast that's what happened with me.. I am not sure how it works for guys...
     
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  7. Nov 11, 2018 #7
    Coolyorky

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    Don’t give in now brother!!

    Morning wood, spontaneous erections and hardness all back. Get hard thinking of real women never P. I can appreciate the beauty of regular women now. I still think more time on Hardmode will be good for me though.

    Keep going till Christmas
     
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  8. Nov 11, 2018 #8
    hijodelaluna18

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    Thank you..yes I can feel so many things happenin at so many levels..its like my PMO sissy asocial self fighting over this new rejuvenated msculine social me,wich in reality is not new its my old self. I need to adjust my mind my body and my lifestyle so its gonna take time..
     
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  9. Nov 11, 2018 #9
    abcdofindia

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    wishing you strength to go through with this :)
     
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  10. Nov 11, 2018 #10
    hijodelaluna18

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    so happy for you bro..morning wood came back at first but left again.I guess Im ina flat line.I can relate to apreciating womens beauty.yesterday I was watching them dance mesmerized.Through it all I never stopped apreciating women even though I had gay gravings but now its like a new apreciation,similar to when you were in elemntary school and you liked a girl in the class if it makes sense..that sparkling butterfiles.I had n spontaneus erect ridin the bike in the gym but that was before the flatline Im at the moment. I hope to get to 64! stay strong.
    Yes the end of the year helped me to set a goal,I was reading NOFAP and reddit and thought hey what if I start now but for real! til 2019.Its anice goal to look forward
     
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  11. Nov 11, 2018 #11
    Fallensoldier1

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    Congrats on your streak man! I’m on day 39 and it’s been hard mode so far. It is very very hard. Although I didn’t have anything as sexually charging as you last night, I can’t imagine. I don’t think I could put myself in that situation, to be all charged up and no where to go. Hats off to you man. Stay strong. The urge will pass. Think of how you will feel after. Just wait patiently for female contact.
     
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  12. Nov 11, 2018 #12
    Adamk2394

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    Very good mate I wish you all the best in abstinence do I find solace best thing they are certified. Triggers which causes you to go back to wanking as we say in the uk checking out girls objectifying then try looking down or concentrating on something else music with sexualy explicit lyrics stay away from that and music videos with scantly clad women not going on social media Instagram etc which also has very sexualised nature to it don’t fantasies about sex put your desires to the back of your head and concentrate on the things you’ve been missing or what you would like to achieve start working out take up a new hobby learn a skill become a monk a warrior a pioneer a new you a new dawn a new life your motivation is the new you YOU CAn BE WHO YOU WANT it’s all on you your failure will be based on your desire to overcome this oppression you n your soul your body your Life Don’t lose before it drags you into the pit of hell Any way Have. A good one ☝️
     
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  13. Nov 11, 2018 #13
    Adamk2394

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    Btw I’ve done 110 days monkmode before you neeed abstinence’s perseverance with a touch of piety and steadfastness
     
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  14. Nov 11, 2018 #14
    hijodelaluna18

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    Bro I aint gonna lie on my way home I pass throuh a prostitute area and I was like...fok men Im gonna stop here and release.but I was strong..made it home.but then there was the laptop..I was drunk,and again more will power..then I woke up in the morning saw he laptop again..and again more will power..but I made it! doing PMO after a party night was a ritual for me so it was very hard.I dont think Ill put myself in such position anytime soon.The glow people talk about is real,people come talk to me out of nowhere,women,straight and gay guys...
     
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  15. Nov 11, 2018 #15
    hijodelaluna18

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    thank you!!!! a new week starts warriors..Yes lets focus our new strengh on other things.Honestly its been a very hard day..the hardest since I started without doubt,bein under alcohol influence and the flirting witht he girls made it so difficut..so BIG THANK YOU for all your messages
     
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  16. Nov 11, 2018 #16
    Tryingto

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    This is a great insight and as big a part of our recovery as anything else I can think of - avoiding those areas and behaviours that used to lead to acting out. Another helpful piece of this puzzle might involve pondering what's going on that leads you to those areas and behaviours in the first place?

    For example, I often 'just happen' to go wandering through youtube when I'm tired. This begins innocently enough, but then looking at tame images becomes looking at racy images becomes looking elsewhere becomes looking for porn, etc... In this instance, becoming familiar with 'tired' as a potential precursor to danger has proven very helpful.

    For what it's worth...
     
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  17. Nov 11, 2018 #17
    hijodelaluna18

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    cool man can you please comment on phisical and mental benefits so we all can be enlighted to get there?.110 is no joke though.I cant express typing how good I feel for you! Thanks a lot
     
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  18. Nov 11, 2018 #18
    hijodelaluna18

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    the problem is I dont want to stop the partying socializing and real phisical interaction with girls. I think its very beneficial to my mindset to have phisical sexual contact with women even if its light touching dancing kissing after years of only pixel women or even men. And go out talk to people socialize cause Ive been isolated for years and thanks to these 3 weeks of NOFAP I find myself able to socialize again. I want to embrace real life and everything that may come with it.It was just a PITA that yesterday situation didnt get to O because of 3rd people cause during this reboot I dont have problems with O with a real woman.The PITA was that it didnt get to O and I was left highly excited drunk and having to come back and sit in front of my laptop.but I guess it was a test on serious I am into NOFAP. Now I definately see that Im going strong and look forward to the 1 month mark
     
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  19. Nov 11, 2018 #19
    Adamk2394

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    Be strong
     
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