25 Day Review / Sexting Addiction

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Mr Nicole

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Just reviewing my experience at 25 days:
I did fall into a flatline / depression at the start of NoFap. I didn’t crave the PMO but I did find my brain adjusting to missing this ritual. It felt like low level depression, sexual apathy, and an element of sadness.
That seems to have faded at 20 days. I’m married, I’ve had to maintain a sex life with my wife amidst this all. My anxiety around sex peaked during the flat line but around day 15-20 I started to feel balanced. I wasn’t sexually obsessed but I was able to respond normally to engagement in martial sex and affection.
Certain sexual positions that triggered insecurities were able to be approached successfully, I’m not sure why.
This weekend I’m hoping to experience increased clarity and improvement in sexual confidence. I will report back :)
 
You are not alone. This is similar to me. I’ve been here before (unfortunately) too. I had done very well since mid November. But prior to that, I was dealing with immense performance anxiety. And now, with my mess up in late February/early March. I had a failure to launch (PIED) occurring a week ago. I am right back to the flatline/anxious stage again.

Fortunately for me, in January and early February, I had completely normal sexual health! I know I can heal from this, I have felt healing before. I never should have lost my way, back to this dark place.

You mention sexting as your issue. Porn is not my concern. I too seek more interaction and intellectual content. I too am married, we have a lot of similarities.

I wish you well, and know, this flatline will go away. You will be back to your old self again. But we have to stay disciplined.
 
WhiskeyNeat said:
You are not alone. This is similar to me. I’ve been here before (unfortunately) too. I had done very well since mid November. But prior to that, I was dealing with immense performance anxiety. And now, with my mess up in late February/early March. I had a failure to launch (PIED) occurring a week ago. I am right back to the flatline/anxious stage again.

Fortunately for me, in January and early February, I had completely normal sexual health! I know I can heal from this, I have felt healing before. I never should have lost my way, back to this dark place.

You mention sexting as your issue. Porn is not my concern. I too seek more interaction and intellectual content. I too am married, we have a lot of similarities.

I wish you well, and know, this flatline will go away. You will be back to your old self again. But we have to stay disciplined.
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Tell me what brought you here? Our stories sound similar ? I’m 56, married, and found myself in a pattern of addiction with sexting for the past 6 months. Now rebooting and onday 26 or so.
 
I’ve pursued erotic stimulation from apps for far too long. Probably 7-8 years or so. 4-5 years ago I realized it was problematic and I’ve had highs and lows battling this addiction since then. That’s what brings me here. It’s a place to shed the shame of what we deal with. It’s a place to support other that also are struggling.

within my marriage my wife is aware of my struggle. But not fully aware of the ongoing struggle. I did come clean in 2021, and although I don’t regret telling her, I don’t know if that helped or did more damage. I could write a dissertation on that subject alone. I don’t want to hide this from her, but I don’t want to burden her with a struggle that isn’t hers. It’s not her fault. It’s not even related to her. It’s my own poor coping mechanism. And I know I can do better.

I’m rambling, but your post definitely resonated with me.
 
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