Hey all, Quick backstory: Currently 20yo. Started PMO at 13-14yo. Inconsistent use but avg. 2-3 times per week. Realised it was bad at 17ish, tried to stop, got stuck for a few years in the following cycle: Self improvement streak for 2-3 weeks then another relapse binge multiple PMOs. Rinse and repeat. I had a couple of successful long streaks of about 3 months without PMO which was great... one thing nagged at me though, why had I failed time and time again for close to 3 years? Takeaway Info: I watched an insightful video about the human condition to always want what you can't have. Fancy cars, big houses, expensive gear, loving relationships, etc. When you can't have something, you really want it, you think about it in the back of your mind, you drool over it. When you have the access to something, it's fine and you can choose whether or not you actually want to use it. This opened my eyes to a new way of thinking about PMO. Give yourself the mental keycard to use PMO, say "I am ALLOWED to use it!" "It is not restricted" but with the catch of: "make a good choice". If you are in that mental breakdown of oh fuck I am stressed and horny for a PMO session - Here are the 2 thought processes: Previously: Porn is terrible and i've blocked myself from using it but ahhgh i'll use it anyway Now: I can use it, I can open it up right now and no-one will stop me. Make a good choice. This goes against most posts about nofap I've ever seen and I haven't seen anyone talk about it in this way. Heck it goes against the title "nofap". If it works, great. If not, give it another proper shot or try a different route. Thanks for reading, Get out there into the world!
Very insightful. You should not allow yourself feel like you are in some sort of bondage while on NoFap
