Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 2, 2017.

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  1. Mariomiggy10

    Mariomiggy10 Fapstronaut

    Focusing my mind on other things.. Really there are no urge. I feel stronger..
    Sunny W, Ace1, Laffio and 2 others like this.
  2. mxmd

    mxmd Fapstronaut

    day 25/30
    Sunny W, Ace1, Laffio and 2 others like this.
  3. franed98

    franed98 Fapstronaut

    It is great to be in good company.
    Sunny W, Ace1, Laffio and 2 others like this.
  4. Spence33

    Spence33 Fapstronaut

    Day 15! Half way there. Waiting on more of the benefits to start popping up.
    mxmd, Sunny W, Ace1 and 3 others like this.
  5. MinnieM

    MinnieM Fapstronaut

    Day 01/30 at the second attempt! Just restart challenge as my weak will.
    mxmd, Sunny W, Ace1 and 2 others like this.
  6. AMA18

    AMA18 Fapstronaut

    God will, God bill, :emoji_pray:
    Sunny W, Ace1, Laffio and 1 other person like this.
  7. Player 1

    Player 1 Fapstronaut

    Day 1, back on track!
    mxmd, franed98, Sunny W and 3 others like this.
  8. ResistAndRecover

    ResistAndRecover Fapstronaut

    Day 28/30 is done. Two more days to meet the challenge!
    mxmd, franed98, Sunny W and 5 others like this.
  9. Dr. Jekyll

    Dr. Jekyll Fapstronaut

  10. HenryWalker

    HenryWalker New Fapstronaut

    Second day.Feel some urges,but I'll read instead I guess :)
    mxmd, franed98, Sunny W and 3 others like this.
  11. paradigmshifter

    paradigmshifter Fapstronaut

    Thank you, this post means a lot. Sometimes I get so caught up in the feelings of shame and regret post relapse that it's hard to take a step back and look at the progress I've made so far this year - this is the best year in over 10 that I've had with regards to abstinence from PMO, which is great. My focus is now putting one foot in front of the other and building myself up again. All the best to you

    Thank you for this post, it strongly resonates with me. After I relapse I always put myself down, which ultimately does nothing to improve my situation. Specifically, I wholly underestimate my ability to climb out of the hole, instead thinking "F it, I've already relapsed I might as well go on and on until the urge completely disappears". I choose this because it's the easy thing to do, and then after the binge is over I go into dejection mode. A better way to approach it would be after a slip, to think "Ok, you've slipped but you've made great progress so far, put your effort into getting back on track now and tomorrow you'll thank yourself for it".

    This links into what you say about having respect and true love for yourself - to be truly understanding and caring to yourself at all times would I imagine make this process so much easier. The difficult part is making that self love and respect happen - it's so easy to fall back into periods where I have a negative mindset because I've been used to it for such a long time.

    Regarding your second point, I completely agree - overthinking everything makes it harder to make this change happen. Rather than thinking "Hmm, I feel horny and I want to scroll social media to accidentally see some triggering images... but I could read that book I always wanted to read but I haven't touched yet... but I feel horny and I need some stimulation, ok here I am down this path again" is to be mindful of that feeling and rather than dwell on it, go straight to that positive activity, e.g. reading, playing guitar, exercising or whatever. And the difficult thing is that going to that book or picking up that instrument is going to feel uncomfortable and unsatisfying in the beginning because I'm not used to it - I have to think about it and feel right about doing it and then actually do it - which is tiresome. Of course it's so much easier to scroll through social media or watch TV because that's what I've been used to for so long. Getting to the stage where I don't have to think about reading that book or picking up that instrument when I have spare time is where I want to be.

    A therapist recommended I read a book called Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi that goes into the above in detail - getting to the stage where positive activities become "flow" activities, rather than unhelpful and harmful activities like PMO which has been a "flow" activity of mine for the past 10 years. I've not picked it up yet but I will carve out the time to give it a read.

    "You don't need things to feel a certain way before you move on" - this speaks to me a lot and I'm going to put this in my signature.

    Thanks and all the best to both of you.

    Day 2
    franed98, Sunny W, Akgeo and 3 others like this.
  12. Jason_Tesla_19

    Jason_Tesla_19 Fapstronaut

  13. CarrM

    CarrM Fapstronaut

    day 21/30, getting closer and closer to 30! Staying Committed!
  14. Laffio

    Laffio Fapstronaut

    Day 4/30

    I'm working the next six nights and can't see my new friend until next Wednesday.:( Hopefully I should make it!
    Last edited: Aug 28, 2018
    Sunny W, franed98, Player 1 and 2 others like this.
  15. C.Bristow

    C.Bristow Fapstronaut

    12/30 nearly complete. Had a couple of urges Saturday but been feeling good since.!
  16. Brollejr

    Brollejr New Fapstronaut

    Started six days ago after i got diagnosed with Sex addiction with voyeurism
    this has been the worst day yet.
    Sunny W, franed98, Laffio and 2 others like this.
  17. harry287

    harry287 Fapstronaut

    Yahooo today I complete 90 days from Porn and Masterbuation
    I am really really thanx to all of you people and my Higher power and specially my wife who always encourage me to stay away from this bad shit
    This is very great and big achievement in recovery
    Again I am very very thanks full to you
    Love u all
    I will stay here more 3 month in this group and complete 1more challenge here
    C.Bristow, Sunny W, franed98 and 4 others like this.
  18. Ace1

    Ace1 Fapstronaut

    Do not worry about it, each day is a challenge, and as every challenge are difficult (well more or less) you can have a feeling of not doing your best, or yet be disappointed about your bahavior. Just don't be demotivated, the 6th day passed, you do not have to fear anything else, just enjoy the 7th day. And read each posts, some of them may actually help you when you are feeling down ;)

    It is now my 9th day, I haven't had any specific problem today, and I'm feeling more and more motivated.

    See you later!
  19. CarrM

    CarrM Fapstronaut

    day 22/30! Being intentional and committed
  20. Akgeo

    Akgeo Fapstronaut


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