76 days later, my impression

7. Or your mind might convince you to do something similar, like look at P-subs or dating sites or social media or something like that.

10. Often we "decide" to peek or to briefly "play with fire" in some way, but then the addiction takes over, making it very difficult to stop.

 

took me time to relaise this but i did. the more we count the days the more we loose.
we set an aim for ourselves for having x number of days under the belt and then as soon as the number of days are completed we end up relapsing as our brain(i.e still porn accustomed) starts to think of it as a GO-GO signal for fapping to porn again as it has told itself that YES we are done we have accomplished something-let us reward ourselves.

 

exactly the playing with fire turns into self immolation

 

I agree with and strongly support every word of this except

I'm married, I've done long streaks both with and without O and I can tell you, O messes me up. With or without a partner. It decreases that "quality of days" part, and makes reset more likely.

I know this isn't what anyone wants to hear, and I think for young guys it's perfectly legit to go for a long term, pair-bonded relationship. But for me, this "sex is a need" rhetoric is not only false, it's backward. I've never felt better, happier, healthier, than when I hadn't had any O in a long time, and had no reason to expect O in the future.

 

i relate to the O messing one up part. i had been peeking for long in the last week and i relapsed to a random porn after coming close to 30 days(1st time ever).
i plrdged to never peek again- i also realized that peeking is as bad as masturbating, it's a cue-the first domino which will cause the fall of all of one's hardwork and determination-reducing one's motivation and draining the energy into unwanted acts of PMO