I need some advice regarding urges. Im almost at day 90 with having a couple of wet dreams, fantasising, and decreased libido but almost no urges. I've been watching p for 4-5 years (ages 16-20) and throughout Nofap, only had one significant urge but no relapse. I catch myself fantasising but never had the urge to rush to my computer and m, though I had noticeable withdrawal symptoms. Currently in a deep flatline with severe anxiety. Is this normal? Thanks in advance!
It’s normal for some people everyone’s experience is different, just be careful because it’s when you least expect it that temptation will be hiding around the corner, that happened to me around day 20, it was smooth sailing and then out of nowhere insane full body urges hit me, it was completely consuming like a dog in heat. And don’t worry about the flatlines they will last a little longer but then be gone.
I want to congratulate you for ur long streak ! I think it is normal to not having urges for lomg time but I think It is always useful to be cautious cuz I had 56 days streak two months ago and I didn't have any urges too until last week of that streak. Now it is harder for me get back long streak like that I relapsed so many times... I dont say u will experience same way like me but I thought it would be an example for you keep it up mate! we got his
Thank you! I had a sense too, but reading post after post with other people having massive urges and withdrawal symptoms makes you doubt that p wasn't the problem, when you don't have urges but only flatline and other symptoms. You got this too man, like you said, it's a very individual process.
Hey man congrats on making it over 90 days. I am over 90 as well and had almost zero urges for p past the first week or two. Count your blessings and keep going!
Same situation here since I last fell, which was the day prior to making an account in here and starting my journal.
A Woman's Sad story about her Boyfriend Who Suicided Due to Porn Addiction , Please share it so that we can stop Porn Industry , This Her Reddit ID - Emotional-Craft-9910 And The Following is her Thread Boyfriend's Porn Addiction of 18 years led to him taking his own life. Hello. I am beyond devastated and my world has completely fallen apart. In an instant I have lost the love of my life who died by suicide at the end of February this year. Me and my boyfriend had been together for almost 3 years, we rented together last year during lockdown, had planned to get engaged this year and we were actively house-hunting. We had so many plans for our future. This was about to be the best time of our lives. A bit of history: 6 months into our relationship I discovered the hundreds of messages from girls at all hours of the day/night. Eventually I realised they were online, global, camgirls and special friends with whom he did online video calls to masturbate to or have Skype sex etc. I told him this crosses a boundary and that is cheating and he said he'd stop. I was very sheltered and I never even knew you could directly approach pornstars etc. I never even knew camgirls were a thing. Anyway I then discovered the extent of it with his several email addresses, several Skype accounts and myfreecams/chaturbate accounts. Then I thought omg this is huge and so much deeper than I thought. And he clearly hadn't stopped. It kept happening, and he always seemed a bit distant, a bit worried or anxious, on edge and he wasn't interested in real life sex. In the first year he liked to 'gift' me items which I'd later realise were things camgirls often wore. He dressed me up in pink wigs, glasses, fishnets, heart shaped chokers, the whole grunge aesthetic. It kept happening where he would ask girls to Skype with him or do sexual acts etc. and I'd find out. He was addicted to cybersex and any moment I left the house it happened. It was awful. I kept thinking he was just a narcissist who thought he was so hot he needed thousands of women for validation etc. But when I'd see him on the floor in tears begging me not to leave him or break up with him is when I realised he was really unwell. I realised he physically couldn't stop. He had tried to stop so many times before on his own but said he never could. He also jerked to pictures of real life female friends that he still hung out with in real life which made me question if he was hung up on an ex or something. He swore he wasn't and that it was all tied in to fantasy. Anyway, several times he relapsed, several times we almost broke up, but I was so in love with him and could see he was a broken man and so I kept coming back to him to try and make it work. We tried all the logical steps, get rid of computer, reduce technology, porn filters and safe search engines and porn blockers etc. I even suggested he start therapy with a professional sex addiction/porn addiction therapist last summer which he did do and made some great progress. Or so I thought. At christmas/new year he had a message come in from a Russian girl. I lost it. Apparantly he had purchased another phone which he was keeping at his workplace and he had contacted all his 'favourites' on Christmas eve to let them know he had a new number etc. I was so heartbroken plus I found it out on my birthday (new years eve). I had suggested before that he talk to his family because it was all getting too much for me to manage on my own. I couldn't really talk to anyone in my family about it as they wouldn't understand porn stuff. In January this year after finding out he had a secret phone at work was when I said he should tell his parents. He did. And he felt such a huge overwhelming relief. His parents are wonderful people and were supportive even despite the taboo etc. They were very shocked however to never have picked up on it but it made sense as he'd always been anxious and depressed and addicted to the computer. We were all a good support for each other and my boyfriend had felt relieved that it wasn't a dark secret anymore. He really seemed to be doing so well and we had the best few months. It all went south when a message came from a girl in America who accused him of being a paedophile, a predator and she accused him of sexual grooming of her. She said he'd shown her dick picks when she was 15 and he was 26. He had pretended to be younger but eventually told her he was 26/27 and she hadn't cared because they were friends. Since then he was so sick to his stomach, he frantically started destroying discs/hard drives and burning them etc. And he looked physically tormented and in agony. I asked him about it but he never really said much. I said we can see what help is available even if you are that way inclined. I just loved him so much I was prepared to do anything. But I was also worried about the police coming to take him away if the girl reported him. Basically then his parents found out and at first they said it'd be okay but a couple of days later they got cross with him and said he should hand himself in to the police. I wasn't there when they had these discussions I was working. But that day he didnt go in to work and instead they'd been talking all night and day. His parents were worried sick too and didn't want to be implicated and said they couldn't live with it. I am so heartbroken. He called me several times but he never once said what was going on or that he'd been told to hand himself in. Instead of doing that, he jumped off the 18th floor of a block of flats and never came home. The police came to tell us all that he was dead. Please. Porn is awful. I don't think he was a P but we are so lost and confused and don't know how to cope. Why was he destroying those discs? I thought it was just screen records of his favourite camgirls or something. But if it was 18 years of addiction maybe he had accessed illegal content? I wish I knew. I just wish he was still alive. It is heartbreaking. Porn has killed my boyfriend. Porn has ruined my life and taken a precious soul out of this world. He was the most precious man, sensitive, sweet, incredibly handsome, generous, funny, hard-working, lots of friends and a wonderful family. He was only 33. It is now just over 2 months since it happened and I'm still stuck in time. I don't know how to cope.
Well, I'm glad that you brought that up and said something because if porn industry didn't exist right now or at all, he would've been alive today. I'm glad that I stopped going to porn websites videos and images because of severe depression.
Who Know How much Times this happened and please share it so we can take a step ahead to stop these porn industries
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