A life of Delayed Ejaculation

Hi all,

I’m new to NoFap and six days in. I signed up today and thought I’d share my experience with DE.

I believe I’ve had this all my life. I’m 37 and have rarely been able to come thru penetration. A long (persistent) blow job will get me there, but more often than not, it’s masturbation (w/ help from my GF) that does the job.

I believe the root of this problem is regular masturbation and a mild addiction to porn. I think I’ve always relied on masturbation as a way of de-stressing and handling anxiety. The porn aspect I think has been a way of heightening the experience.

My first experiences with sex were pretty humiliating. I’d get hard during foreplay but as soon as I went in I’d go flaccid within a minute. In addition to this, during foreplay there’d be next to no sensitivity. Eventually, I’d develop more sensitivity but the orgasms never came and my go-to was jerking off.

Here’s where it gets especially tough. I’ve been with my long term GF for 11 YEARS. During this time I’ve come in her maybe twice, otherwise it’s blowjobs or jerking off. Now, why haven’t I addressed this earlier? Half the time I fake it or admit I can’t come and need help.

I feel awful about this situ because she’s the loveliest person and just wants me to enjoy myself. Obvs I haven’t told her about porn/regular masturbation, but we have an amazing relationship and I don’t want to fool her or myself anymore.

So, I need to make this change and break up the routine. I tried NoFap a couple of weeks ago, reached five days, had sex but needed to be jerked off to come. I was (again) disappointed, but - on the upside - I had more sensitivity than I could remember in a long time; I just couldn’t get there thru penetration.

I can already see that nofap could be the key here and I want to stay with it. Six days and counting.

Any similar experiences from others? I realise my situ is quite the saga.

Cheers.

 

I probably have. Sensitivity might be tricky wearing a condom though? In any case I’ll keep in mind. Thanks!