Advice - Can't make past 5 days?

I have been in the same situation and I am not really sure what made me get past 7 days. I think I just realized that it is so unnecessary with PMO, and the feeling I get from abstaining from PMO is fantastic. It is difficult to say what you should or should not do. Try to just make it through one day, or when you have an erection, just through one hour.

 

Having a strong motivation is what gets you through any urge. Not external motivation, but inner motivation is key. Why are you here? What is your motivation? Can you get excited about this journey of self improvement? Willpower can only get you so far. I know because I'm in the same predicament as you. I'm searching for that motivation, and getting close to visualizing it. PM me if you want to know more, or if you simply need anyone to start holding you accountable.

 

"To beat the enemy you must study it."
Check out my guide that I made in my signature: Guide To Always Succeed

 

It's ok man. I'm going to try nofap. For real. Been reading the reddit a couple times a year for 7 years. Today is the day. Day one.

 

The same thing happened to me in December of 2017. For a little over a month, I kept relapsing on the 11th day.

For me, I just started taking abstaining really seriously and I had my guard really high up when the 10th-11th day rolled around.

 

Check your inbox, I left you a message. Hopefully it works from my end.

 

How are you doing? I'm still staying strong. Read a book last night, slept 6 hours. Going to go shovel this morning before work.

 

You're deep inside that addiction circle and I'm at the same place. Last Friday I decided to quit Porn for good and installed heavy blocking software on all my devices. I still jerked off to some ass I managed to find on twitter.. So I decided to also not masturbate for 7 days. Been 2 days clean so far and it's been very tough. At least two dozen impulses to jerk off per day. Especially yesterday because I went to smoke weed at a friends house and usually I'd always go for PMO once I get back home, I've been practicing that particular ritual for at least 2 years! I had to break that habit yesterday for the first time and it was hell, but I managed to not touch myself. Day 3 (today) turns out to be much easier already in terms of impulses.

Here's what I believe helped me so far:
1.After I jerked off to twitter (fckin pathetic..) I knew another low-point was reached, which made me get very serious. I meditated that night. This is very subjective and spiritual but I couldn't do without it. Basically I reestablished my relationship with the part of me that wants the best for myself and I promised myself to follow it.
I'm gonna try to summarize my conception of self that I've learned from various sources, so bare with me:
There's the you who makes choices. Then there's a part of you that knows what's best. Then there are a multitude of urges, lust being one of them. For all intends and purposes they act like separate personalities, they have their own biased goals, that's why our ancestors called them gods (they are found in everybody and they take over the will of people). However they can't force you to do anything, you're always the one who decides. Then there's a part that breeds resentment and ultimately wants you to die because life itself is too hard. In healthy people that part has little to say most of the time. But for an addict it's that part that gives you the strength to say "fuck it" and get while the getting's good, ignoring all rationality.
Meditation helps to remember that ultimately you have the power of choice. Giving your abstinence a level of spirituality makes it more serious. You won't just give in to your urges anymore, if you do it will feel like real betrayal rather than just "feeling naughty".

2. The blocking software is essential, I couldn't do without it. I'd be teasing myself all day long without it.

3. I got health issues because of over masturbation. Luckily I didn't have any erectile dysfunction yet but I've been having a dull pain in the pelvic area while masturbating for two month now. I never stopped or reduced the amount. Last Friday it hurt all day. I don't know what it is exactly, but I know where it comes from and I'll only make it worse if I continue like before. You don't wanna get to that place. Imagine the embarrassment to have to spend your money on the doctor because you couldn't keep yourself from wanking.


The longer I'm trying to stop, the more I realize the one factor that really makes the difference is mustering up as much seriousness as possible.

Hope that helps, peace