All the women I match with on dating sites are so undesirable to me

Which dating sites have you used? I experienced the same thing

 

Datingsites are bad.

Ditch your phone and go on adventure.

Good sailors are not experienced with smooth sea rather tough ones. They face both negative and positive.

 

Finding the right partner for life can take a while. If you're not feeling it yet, it's cool to hold off on diving into a relationship. Getting hitched and then splitting can be a real headache. So, work on yourself first, and you'll bump into the right match down the road. Feel free to date around, but make sure to pick wisely and treat yourself well as you go.

 

Dating sites are one option. They are the easiest way, but not the best way. The best way to find a woman is to go live your life in reality, not on a digital device. Get out there, see who is out there, and approach a woman that you like. They may reject you, but keep on trying, and eventually you will find a woman that you like or even love.

 

@ElKnight I've been single for a while before I met my girlfriend. Even a lone wolf can find a girl or woman. Just make sure you're looking after yourself and your surroundings. It might take some time, but I wish you all the best!

 

I feel you man, not having wingman or wingsister is very tough.

 

I was a lone wolf for many years when looking for women. I used to walk up to a table of women and say they had the prettiest smiles that I have ever seen. That same line works on all women, those standing alone or with a group. The hard part was getting the courage to approach them, and then keeping an interesting dialog going. The dialog with the group didn't last for very long, but with the single women, it worked well.
Give it a shot, and see what happens.
Good luck out there.

 

Also 31M and I repeatedly ask the same question. I'm almost 50% certain we are not.

 

Well, dating sites are designer to keep You single. It's like the "Squid Game" of Love.
I feel that, as I explore dating apps, I'm becoming aware of my loneliness- lack of Women contact.

 

Your in desperate mode.you need to change your focus to what do you want in a relationship?Do you want a fling?Do you want long term?what qualities do you want her to have? Want things do you find undesirable.one thing good in dating you can weed out candidates or find desirable ones with questions.Another good way to find good ones is volunteering at food shelves, churches is one way to find one if your looking for a mate with values.just desiring any mate is probably not the way to go.im not judging you but been where your at. Hopeless is a state of mind.Doesnt have to be a permanent place

 

Repeated for emphasis. Apps only make money if you use the app. People in stable, loving relationships do not use dating apps. Lonely, dissatisfied people use dating apps. Therefore, a dating app has a vested interest in keeping you dissatisfied and lonely, with just enough hope to keep you on the hook. Emancipate yourself from those hucksters: ditch the apps. Don’t have a wingman? Make a friend. Make two. Talk to strangers. Live. Carpe diem.

Also, @Wolves of Wisdom your grudging hope is my kind of energy.

 

You say that because you haven’t seen an alternative modeled. Loads of people do meet in real life; they meet at church, the gym, at work, the game store, all kinds of places.

Quit porn, that’s the main thing, because it’s restricting you in ways you can’t begin to understand. When you’re clean for a while, you see the world differently. You notice people, and can read them better. You are more emotionally resilient, which gives you more confidence, which makes you more assertive. When feeling all these differences, you can have the presence of mind to notice when a woman is possibly interested in you, and have the gumption to ask for her contact information. We used to ask for numbers, or email, now it’s IG or some crap idk. But you can do it.

I stand by my assessment, dating apps have the value of warm, runny poo. Humans figured out a way to fly, I think you can figure out how to meet women without a &0))@“‘ dating app.

 

These women with boyfriends also have single friends, and sisters. If you screen as a legit dude, it’s fully possible they’ll introduce you.

Finding a girlfriend is a long term, high cost endeavor. Everyone is insane, and you have to sort out the ones your insanity matches. Girls are doing the same thing. It’s okay to be friends with girls you aren’t attracted to, and it’s okay for them to be friends with you. That way you learn to be a social being in a low stakes environment.

 

So you think if I approach a girl, and she says she has a boyfriend, that I could then maneuver the situation into a friendship resulting in her introducing me to one of her friends?

nice idea.. would have to come across as a high value catch though I’m guessing?