Hi everyone, First off, TRIGGER WARNING. I will be talking about sexual situations so if you're feeling vulnerable right now, please don't read this post. I'm currently in doing a reboot, somewhat successfully, so far; I haven't looked at porn in at least a week and I don't see my willpower failing in that department yet. BUT I have recently met a girl with whom an unusual relationship has sprung. This is not a dating relationship, we're friends but a friend's-with-benefits kind of thing. I don't feel close to her yet, but she asked me if I was willing to have this kind of relationship and I dare say that I'm intrigued. She's even giving me full control of what we do. It's hard for me to say no to this. I don't get to have sex often and I have no reason to turn her down.... or do I? What I want to get your opinion on is will this kind of relationship affect my reboot? I'm not looking at porn. When I do get turned on it's because of HER, not some fantasy. There isn't love involved and it is "just a sex" kind of thing (which I'm okay with right now because, to be honest, I won't be getting any real girlfriends soon with my brain in the condition its in). From what I've read on this site and others is that the real problem comes from an attachment to a fantasy be it from porn or something else. But sex is okay because its with a real woman. I hope I'm getting my facts straight, here... So sex is okay. I'm guessing masturbation to images of this woman in my head probably won't help me. What about hand jobs? Is that just masturbation at the hands of someone else? Should I avoid that? I don't know, I'm kinda torn by all this. Sex with a willing partner (albiet unloving) and full control of what we do. Also, I get the psychology of all of this. I get that this is not a real relationship and that she has problems and all that, but that's not the point of this post. I want your opinion on whether this kind of thing is bad for my reboot. I appreciate all your input!