Anal fixation

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Svabo, Jan 19, 2019.

  1. 0111zerozero11

    0111zerozero11 Fapstronaut

    And that is?
     
  2. de severn

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    I watched plenty of lesbian porn and masturbated a lot but I would never touch a girl in real life. It was porn escalation. I needed more and more kink. I also got into incest when I watched porn. But again, I would never want any of my real family.

    Also, my boyfriend loves looking at my butthole. We affectionately call it “starfish”. He’s not gay. He likes my hair draping on my back and he likes spreading me to see everything up close.

    I promise I’m not chalking any points on the board of this argument. I come in peace :emoji_peace:

    However for what it’s worth, it’s up for him to announce he’s gay. Just because he’s kinking out on trannies, it doesn’t mean that he likes men. I think he’s just objectifying his fetishes. I used to have the hugest orgasms looking at naked girls in every porn scenario but I was pornstruck and disconnected. I didn’t imagine loving a girl, taking one out for dinner, or even having sexual relations with a real girl. I was just addicted to going deeper in the smut tubes. EVERY time I was done orgasming, I always felt shocked at what I got myself into. Once the porn was done, my kinky ideas made me feel sick.

    Not everyone is the same, though.
     
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  3. Anubis Rises

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    even looking at a females anus is quite arousing so i dont see just because anus arouse you makes you hella gay ,i was addicted to tons of trans an gay porn ,nofap helped rewire me, i feel ok now, a real girl arouses me just fine an im allow to do whatever i want to them but i perfer normal sex with them i have no urge to stick my pee pee in her star fish but i dont mind looking at it ,
     
  4. IAmLegion

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    Keep drawing your circles, cake.
     
  5. Coolyorky

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    The thing is......nature doesn’t comprehend a transgender/cd person. As for as our primal brain is concerned there male and female.
     
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  6. IAmLegion

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    My case in point exactly.
     
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  7. Coolyorky

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    I respect trans people and everyone else obviously. Just speaking from a sexual perspective
     
  8. Svabo

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    Because in my opinion, anal is something that only a really horny person would do, and I feel aroused only by really horny persons. When a girl or tranny is giving her anus, in my mind it looks like "I want to please you fully, to encourage you to fulfill your deepest darkest desire so you can achieve ultimate orgasm and satisfaction"

    Problem is that normal courtship method of cuddling with a girl and then having nice casual sex is not arousing with me at all. I want to destroy her with my penis. And I'm that kind of person in general: I'm always seeking an extreme, doing extreme stuff
     
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  9. Rick Seng

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    I watched porn since I was 15 years old, since 16 years I never watched any film that didnt have anal. doing nofap for 2 months I was again more interested in normal sex with pussy again.
     
  10. Anubis Rises

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    i cant say if transgenderism is a normal thing ,its ok if you plan to wear a wig an wear a dress thats all you should be doing if you want to live a transgendered life, this transgenderism is now a big business for doctors which means they are not going to advertise the high rates of breast implant complications ,the high percentage of woma having to come back in cause theyre implants exploded an they become deathly ill, they are not goin to advertise the harmone therapy downside, the mood swings ,the deep depressions it causes leading to the high suicides these meds cause, im not even going to state the downsides to penile desection operations ,you gotta sign a contract saying your ok with the chance of bleeding to death if surgery goes wrong, so the porn isnt the only dark part
     
  11. MarinoBigFan1984

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    A preference for a certain type of sexual position doesn’t make you gay or straight.
     
  12. Anubis Rises

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    its ok to wear a lil make up just not so much that you actually look like a woman ,leave your beard on or something so people know your a male , if you fool people into thinking your a real girl its called deception ,deception is a negative in case some are unaware
     
  13. payooli

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    I am as close to 100% hetero as you can get, I have never watched even one frame of gay porn, and yet female anal scenes are one of my all-time favorite things. For me, indeed it has to do with the idea of the woman being overtaken by lust and fully submitting to me. The vagina was kind of... meh. Vanilla.

    Of course I should point out that now that I am quitting PM, my wife's vagina is exciting to me once again, and the anus is becoming more and more just a hole that shit comes out of, rather than some kind of magical promised land.
     
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  14. Svabo

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    I've been thinking why i get excited sexually by women and CD/TV and the common ground is my nylon/ pantyhose fetish. I have it for my whole life and can pinpoint exact situation when I've become fascinated by it: when i had 4yhrs old and saw women and girls in pantyhose in lingerie catalogue.

    So to become aroused the person needs to wear pantyhose, no matter the sex. I don't feel aroused by naked women or CD/TV... but the women usually see my fetish as something kinky and feel objectified when i ask for it while i have opinion that CD/TV doesn't care for objectification because they are the just for that and generally do wear nylons because of trying to be more feminine. . .

    My main problem is me not being able to connect my feelings with my sexuality so i do find women appearance as nice but not sexual of she's not wearing pantyhose, and vice versa, as sexual when she does no matter if she looks nice or not...

    Anal still represents for me the forbidden fruit which suggest ultimate arousal by person
     
  15. Svabo

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    So today I've listened to this podcast from sexual therapist and learned that there are different sexual types of people: https://www.datingskillsreview.com/ep-94-defeating-sexual-inhibition-jaiya-ma/
    So i tried to experiment a bit and i know I'm probably a kinki type. So I've struck lightly my balls (because a girl recently did it while we tried to have sex and it aroused me but because of my inhibition i haven't encouraged her to do it more) and achieved an instant turn on by myself!
    So this explains so much: there's nothing wrong with me, I've just been chasing wrong types of sexual persons and because of that i don't feel aroused by their sexual expression.
    I highly recommend you all to listen to this podcast because a flattline or lack of urge for sex could be caused by you not listening your body once you've come down from porn addiction
     
  16. fredisthebes

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    Women very seldom get pleasure from anal stimulation or anal sex, especially not without giving her V a lot of attention first and during. Does a woman's orgasm get you off? Or the effect that you are having on her body and mind? Are you interested in pleasing a woman or only pleasing yourself? It's a genuine question, as a lot of women are kinky in their own way, but I believe that porn causes men to become selfish lovers. The ultimate pleasure for me is for us to both orgasm at the same time, no fakery porn bullshit but pure mutual pleasure.
     
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  17. payooli

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    Don't know how much stock I'd place in a 'sexual therapist'... most sex therapists still won't even admit that porn addiction exists (because it conflicts with their ideological faith) despite much research to the contrary.

    I'd suggest reading the "Your Brain on Porn" ebook by Gary Wilson to learn more about the research, and form your own opinion. https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/
     
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  18. Pycca

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    As a pmo addict since high school I'd prefer anal porn the most. No surprise it led to ts/tv porn and interests. It not only made me want anal with my female lover but also on myself.
    My wife played along. We used fingers, plugs and dildos on each of us for a while. In the end i realized that anal intercourse with a woman was no where near as good as vaginal. The butt has no texture. Its a smooth tunnel not designed for pleasure despite how tight it is. Not a fan.
    Liking doesn't make yoy gay maybe not even porn warped, just a preference. Abstaining for a month will give you better perspective. Is it porn mentality or is it you. After i started to abstain I realized i don't like anal more than surface licking me or her. That's it.
    Stay away from temptation then lookdeep into yourself and you will know.
     
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  19. More Jing

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    righty ho here we go :) Ive had anal sex with 2 woman both numerous times over about a 6 month period 20 years ago when I was in my thirties

    Did I enjoy it oh yes felt fantastic ..would I do it again ,no that wanting is gone. I said it felt fantastic but...the end result did not look so fantastic......what I never realised was that porn girls set themselves up with enemas etc ,,,real girls dont ,and I dont want to have what looks like lemon curd on my cock again and two ....no wont go there ............so to the OP I say if you want to rid yourself of this fixation do yourself a favour and actually do it,good luck
     
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  20. payooli

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