Hey everybody Its been 1 year since i started my nofap journey, but relapsed many time. I really wanna end this chapter and lead a healthy and happier life. please tell me how to deal with following things: 1.severe impulsivity- I lose control over myself 2.As time passes i cannot stay honest with myself during reboot. 3.urges and those who have succeded please tell me what it really takes to win this battle. Brothers out there, I need your help badly.
Dear brother, You have really identified the main challenges! That is great progress that too at such a young age. You should give yourself a huge pat on the back for this. NF is a bit like weightlifting. The ‘mental muscles’ we need for those three beautiful points you raised do get better with practice. just keep tracking your progress on those points. Try to not add unnecessary weights to what you already have to lift. In this life there are some things we have to do. The wise save their energy for those activities. If I had followed the advice that I’m giving you when I was your age, I would be three times more successful in every aspect of my life. Cultivate the honesty muscle first. It is what will save you long term. impulsivity is natural that too at your age with the hormones going. Still you can make sincere efforts. Practice it with food control. it is connected to urges. For urges search urge surfing , STAR technique, choice points and also yoga and tai chi are good. Best
Hi bro, This is an advice from fro. So.robe who has succeeded less than you, but I can tell you that: The recipient for any change goes through love and not being g hard on yourself. When you say you "wanna end this", i totally get it. However, it's also about accepting we are humans and we have urges and we do and can fail. I think you are doing amazing and you should be proud of yourself. I would be happy to learn from you. As someone who has sever HDHD i can relate to Impulsivness etc. I don't know if it can be cured. The only thing I know that helps me I when I'm not angry at myself.
Drink hot water when you get sn election? Do you mean coffee? Tea? Sounds like torture a bit About books: give some examples please
I was at my worst when I was 19. All night PMO sessions before that term existed. Sometimes I’d take all night walks to stop myself because I couldn’t think of anything else to do. What is your life like outside of your porn habit?
If you are living with family open your door, your windows. If the urge is strong just go out side then go to living room where there are people. And if you are living an apertment, just open window and go outside for 5min and just looking at some blank point outside, or better have a walk outside. I clean my room every week and always open window, and I dont have urge. Take your time, it's hard. Just think about what you will archive when you beat this addiction
I always sleep early, wake up early since i was a kid. I try to exercise regularly, I do my academic studies and sometimes i read novels. But when i am sad , bored, i turn to that bad habit. staying honest is the big fight
I did Nofap hardmode before I know this forum. (that was a 90-days hardmode, and I reset cuz I found no meaning, not jerking back then) The reason that I was doing Nofap was I wanted to get my life into right track. I still want to get my life into the right path. I personally reckon a imperfect streak will do me/you good enough. * Allowing you to practice mental toughness * nofap free up your time quite a bit ( ALOT) * better sharpness and you can focus on your task *force your face your biggest fear (my biggest addiction is pornography) However, I do think getting into a relationship is your healthy long term goal ( some other users pointed out, having a healthy relationship with woman makes you a better person) Just set a time for yourself and allow yourself to RESET. maybe 30 days for a rest? I believe that if you serve yourself well, we will be in somewhere right in the future GOOD LUCK MY DEAR
Accept relapses as a constant companion on your journey towards freedom. Every relapse will teach you something about yourself. Eventually, you will be free. It happened to me hundreds of times since joining in 2018 and now i am on day 112 of hard mode , with no urges and zero desire to relapse. You keep going.
Currently at 206 days free of MO and 278 free of Porn. What has worked for me is: 1- Study nofap. You, me and everyone on this forum are experts when it comes to porn. We've spent years studying it. Now its time to study nofap. Dedicate time where you will actively take notes in a notebook for other peoples success stories, motivations, effects of PMO etc . Review your notebook. If you're serious about beating the addiction, then this is an important step. 2- Meditation, really learn to culture present awareness and mindfulness in what you engage in. Through meditation you can really start to catch your triggers and redirect them in a healthy manner. Figure out what you are avoiding with PMO. 3-Learn an interrupt "Mantra" something you will repeat every single time an urge , porn fantasy/any sexual fantasy appears in your mind. Without exception, you need to train your mind for it to become a knee-jerk reaction. Do not let it go on longer than a second. Think of an urge/porn pop up in your mind as a spark. If you engage in it, the spark turns to a fire and gets stronger and stronger the longer you engage in it. Easier to stomp out a spark than large flames. Write out a long version and short version. Practice repeating it. 4-Look at this as a lifestyle and work on other factors to improve yourself throughout. 5- Exercise It's not an easy journey friend, but it's worth it. Good luck
Dude, you are right. I've realised many things from relapses. After 16 days, I relapsed and it was a lesson and I also knew sonething about myself as you said. Relapses are part of the process towards freedom.
Hello there, I am dealing with this for several years too and still didn't managed to get it behind me. Now I have changed my tactics: I disconnected myself from the web. I literally unplugged my router and put it the closet. ( I'm writing this now because my father asked me to do something so I'm checking in here). It is going great so far. My mind is much more relaxed and urges are rare. I'm focused and motivated to keep going. Yes, I still have my access using my phone but I don't want to. Hope this will help you. Stay strong!
