HELP! Instagram and tinder trigger me, I'd like to find a girl to talk to - and I also post my art content on instagram they need to stay. Anyone have any tips for me? Something I can do or work towards to skip it all.
I would say to delete instagram and tinder, but if you have to have it, then unfollow everyone on Instagram. Only use it to post your art. And delete tinder. In my experience it is 99% just for hook ups. Real relationships rarely happen through tinder, and if it is a Psub for you then it is not going to be helpful at all. If you'd like to find a girl to talk to, do it the old fashioned way - go meet some in person. It may be more work, but you are basically just torturing yourself by seeing Psubs on insta and tinder while trying to quit. Your reboot is more important than anything you can do on those apps.
Train your brain to FEAR triggers. When I see a sexy ad, my automatic response now is to look away as if it was something to be feared. Think often about the pain PMO has caused you. Think about how you feel right after you orgasm..... Burn that feeling and image into your mind Mentally practice a new mental pattern. Visualize yourself coming across a trigger and looking away in fear. Make a face like you find it disgusting. Push your hands as if you were shoving something away. Practice this pattern over and over so it becomes automatic when it really happens. You need to practice.... but in a nut shell, my new mental pattern is that when I see a trigger ... I immediately flip my mind to the suffering PMO has caused me. Anthony Robbins has some great info on how to connect pain to bad habits. Don't let your brain feel arousal from a trigger. Make it feel fear and disgust.
This Is there a way to post to instagram without having to look at instagram (Like via email?) tinder i would just get rid of
Do you use your phone while in bed? One thing that has helped me is to keep my charger at my desk and keep my phone there at night so I can't use it.
