AS seen with many posts about loneliness – believe you and me, I have felt rather shitty about being lonely – and had a right downer over being single on numerous occasions. Given the time I have gained more clarity the longer I have done NoFap. Sure, we have days where things are hunky dory, and others that have been difficult. But that’s life in general, we have our good days and we have our bad ones. Slowly, but surely, there has been a change of mindset over time too. The more I focus on improving me and my life. I’ve become less inclined, and not as bothered about having a girlfriend right now. It doesn’t really matter, and isn’t the be all and end all. The problem is that there is a stigma attached to being single. That is somewhat seen as some social plague. Blame society and the media for enforcing and influencing our thoughts and views on this. While we all would love to have that special someone. Don’t get me wrong, I do. But Being single though, does have its perks and here’s some of them: It’s OK to be selfish One BIG plus of being single, is that I can afford to be selfish. Put myself first without ever feeling guilty, and not having to make any compromises. Simply because there’s not got going to be other people I’ll have to consider or spare thoughts for. More time for ME With being single. I’ll have more time freed up for me. Which gives me endless opportunities. Such as focusing on improving yourself and your life. A chance for growth and development in one’s self. Examples include: going travelling, taking up a hobby, studying a course at college or university. The list goes on… More freedom I have been in awe and envied people my age who have got a partner and had their kids young. But the upside to me being single and not being a parent (in my late 20s), is that I don’t have as many – if any – commitments and responsibilities. My options are still open. Call me selfish, but I’m glad I’m not being burdened with the baggage at this moment in time. Don’t get me wrong, I’d love to settle down and have children in the future. I’m not ready for that now. I’m still young and time is on my side to get out there, do things and live my life. If that isn’t one advantage to being single. Then I don’t know what is. Valuing ME Just because I'm single doesn’t mean that I'm not worthless. Look at it this way, being single means that I am more likely to have standards and at least some self-respect. It’s just that I'm not just going to go with anyone because I'm desperate and lonely. I obviously value myself, and that compatibility is more important to me when it comes to relationships.