Constant Ghosting. What is wrong with me?

So here is my story. I am a 25 year old male who has led a life of constant fapping since I was 14 years old. The first time I ever ejaculated was to internet porn, soft-core on Youtube. I was a small and unattractive young boy during my high school years and wasn't even concerned with women. Yet I satisfied myself through internet porn nearly daily instead of chasing real women. I simply knew I couldn't get the girls I was interested in at that point. This cycle went on for YEARS, all throughout high school and college. As I matured into a young man, I actually became quite handsome but still didn't have enough interest in real women. I was still jacking it to porn which dropped my libido to nonexistent levels. The vicious cycle here is that my lack of libido led to me having less total energy to pursue, impress, and engage with real women. I held the false belief that "things will just happen." I held this belief for years, to my detriment. The first time I ever realized I had a problem was when I saw a Time Magazine article about how internet porn is causing erectile dysfunction amongst young men. Seeing the article and superfluously reading it's contents shook me to my core. Something deep inside of me broke through. I went weak in the knees and seemed lost in thought for the rest of the day because this article spoke so truly to my current and past predicament. Through that article, I gathered the names of this website and others such as yourbrainonporn.com. I read the success stories, the neurology of porn addiction, and tried to stop masturbating for some time. I failed. I failed many times. I am now at the point where I know I can sustain abstinence from masturbation. That is not my problem anymore. The problem now is rewiring my brain, at a time, ironically, where it is fully developed, to become a player with real women and not the pixelated falsehoods I had grown up watching. I am in therapy now for this exact problem. Keep in mind that I have never sought therapy for anything else in my life. Yet this problem has been so awful, and has affected my core to such a degree, that I need professional help to correct myself. The ironic thing here, and the thing that frustrates me to no end, is that I don't actually fear approaching women so much, nor do I lack any physical characteristics that would otherwise forbid me from attracting quality women. It is, I believe, a lack of that subconscious display of confidence, that undefined quality that draws women into a man's life that prevents me from getting my FIRST girlfriend. I don't lack any social skills either. I get along with nearly everybody, have travelled the world, am going to graduate school, and basically have my entire life together. My future appears bright. Yet pretty girls, the girls I pursue, the ones that are cute but aren't 10's, seem to ghost me ALL THE TIME. I have actually NEVER gotten a girl to go out with me that I was interested in. And I don't lack effort. I go to bars, talk to girls without being creepy, and pit myself in social situations that afford interactions with attractive women. I've been successful getting girls' numbers but not one has given me the CHANCE to demonstrate my value. They appear superficially interested, maybe attracted to me at first, but don't want to see me once I ask them out. I am still a virgin yet I've had opportunities to have sex with women. I have left about half a dozen women hanging who were ready to have sex with me but I simply wasn't ready. This was before noFAP, before I ever went even 30 days without masturbation and porn. I feel much more vigorous now that I am on day 32 but the same issues keep cropping up. I meet a girl, both of us feel attraction, and once it's time to meet up again she ghosts me like I'm a complete stranger and someone who has no value to her. I'm trying everything. I'm in therapy, I'm putting myself out there socially, I have the rest of my life together but women still feel like I'm just not quite good enough for them. It's more frustrating than anything I could imagine. They tease me with eye contact then disregard me once I approach them and see if they want to date me. Is NoFAP powerful enough to overcome years of torment by women that have only denied me and given me nothing positive in return? Is my situation hopeless? There seems to be no progress, just growing sexual desire with no reciprocation by the women themselves.
It's funny when you talk to people that have NO IDEA how porn has affected you. There's two response. The first is the bro response. These are the guys that have never had a problem developing a healthy sex life. This is MOST guys. They say: "Bro, just lower your standards." Oh yeah? Well if you were me, you'd know that I can't even get hard for a girl that is below my standards. These women won't cut it for a guy who grew up watching flawless women ride dick like a pro quarterback throws a football. Then there's the typical female response: "You'll meet someone who will make you happy." Yeah, well, I'm really only interested in having great sex. I don't give a shit about having a loving partner or any of that crap. And don't give me the bullshit that that's not what women want. Their just as interested in non-contractual sex as any man is. It's not about finding love, it's about finding pleasure. Maybe though I am missing something about women. As my friend told recently about some topic unrelated to this, "maybe I've got some learning to do."