Depression, failing university

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by 0xyg3n, Mar 30, 2018.

  1. 0xyg3n

    0xyg3n New Fapstronaut

    I am new here, never thought i would join this community. I've always found it ridiculous that people came together to stop doing something natural and relieving like masturbation Why would you want to stop doing that? Now I get it, when you can't control yourself, when it takes you over, when it stops you from doing what you have to do.

    I fell into a vicious circle, I can't study anymore, the only thing I do is searching for new porn and masturbating, when I try to focus on my textbook the only thing i think about is who and what I should watch next. I don't sleep properly, because I stay up late to watch porn and manstrubate. It became an addiction and it is destroying me.

    I hope I can gain back self-control by doing this,
    wish me luck.
  2. Mitness

    Mitness Fapstronaut

    Good that you're here! I had the same idea. I have never actually seen the benefits of groups like aa or na. Till i found this community.

    I guess it's ok to have occasionally a beer, some drugs or masturbate. I guess it's getting problematic when it takes over your life. Same as you wrote. It escalated for me as well. Never really could have finished uni. So next september i will try for the last time, but then sober and clean haha.

    If you would like some tips for rebooting or have questions about regaining will-power and self-control. Just send me a message..

    Here's my story.
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  3. Welcome. Glad you are here.

    Take some time to read the reboot material and come up with a plan for what you will do when you are faced with urges. It has good advice, so don't skip it! :)

    Perhaps start writing a journal - if you feel comfortable telling people about happened and what's going on now, you will start to feel accountable to them. You may even inspire others. It's a nice feeling! This will help your recovery.

    Also, try to add something into your life that makes you the kind of person who doesn't engage in PMO. Think about doing:
    Something you enjoy
    Something you're good at
    Something important
    Something for somebody else, without thought of reward (and if you DO get an unintended reward, do something ELSE, perhaps for a different person or group).

    Read the journals of others - we all learn from each other. For example, I received the above good advice from a far more experienced member of the community who shared his knowledge. Don't just stay within your own age group or part of the world. Share your knowledge in a respectful way. Read, learn, apply.

    Look around the forums, get to know people. Everyone is friendly, and will try to support you. We're all in the same boat here. :)

    Be kind to others and others will be kind to you, both here and IRL.

    I wish you a successful reboot.
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  4. Roady

    Roady Fapstronaut

    Thanks for being here. Welcome!
    Leaving an addictive habit is not an easy job, but .... it will be fully worth it.
    So... get some knowledge, read stories, let yourself encouraged by others.
    You are not alone in this. So connecting to others is a clue as well!
    And don't forget to create a journal.
    Writing about your daily stuff may really help you to process the issues.

    I hope you will make it a great time here!

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