You boys do realize this thread is 6+ years old right? Anyway I just wanted to comment on this idea not to disclose to your wife? Bad idea! She knows. She probably doesn't know exactly what it is but trust me she knows something is definitely wrong. Don't believe it? Ask any woman on here! It's not a good idea to just get drunk one night and spill the beans either. There is a healthy way to disclose and then there is a very bad way. And worse there is a discovery which will eventually happen anyway. So don't think for a moment that you can do this as a solo fight. And don't think for a moment you can hide it indefinitely. Not gonna happen.