Does bisexuality confuse people?

Personally, I do not find bisexuality bizarre or confusing.

But maybe some make assumptions. For example, that you may be attracted equally to males and females. Yet one bisexual guy might be attracted to females 70% and another bisexual guy might be attracted to females 40%. So the primary attraction may be more towards one than the other. Of course, some bisexuals will be attracted 50% each.

 

I am bisexual and I can tell you that some (not all) people are definitely confused by it, for example I remember having a conversation with one girl about me being bi and she said she just couldn't be with someone like that, after going a little deeper I realized she thought being bisexual meant you were with a man and woman at the same time, and judging from everything I've seen there seems to be a great deal of confusion from people in general.

People seem to just think that people are "born" a certain type of way, or that you are either attracted to one sex or the other, really weird I think.

 

Its important to note that what someone seeks sexually is not necessarily what someone is interested in romantically, you can be only attracted to having sex with females but only be interested in being with males, and so on.

I also want to say that no one is ever 100% one way or another, its complicated, and grey, and yes kind of confusing at first glance. Its perfectly understandable, why, lets say a guy will say he's gay but is married to a woman and everyone is life WTF? (this happened on the dr drew show btw) because people like not to think too much about it, they enjoy the comfort of not knowing about things like polyamory or D/s and etc.

 

The real reason why people make that argument, I suspect, is to make it seem like its more "natural" or that its the same as the urge to procreate, I'm not saying its unnatural or anything, but what I'm really saying is that people are using the wrong point to argue against a wrong belief, basically fighting fire with fire pretty much.

 

Humans have been, for hundreds of years, going as far from nature as possible, we are the only species that thinks this way, so to even ask that question is ironic as hell.

 

Funny how you shy away from those topics, which to my mind are 10 times more acceptable and common than a man "being with" a man.

 

Everything that exists or can exist, is natural.

 

Arguable. Those types of relationships are ever mentioned compared to homosexual relationships, I have never actually heard anyone talking about them so I assume they are viewed very unfavorably.

 

No, it's not bizarre. This has been around since the beginning of time. I believe liking your own gender is a natural phenomenon. It's definitely not bad or any of those things. Without giving a lengthy dissertation; which is hard to do - the issues are multifold; Millenium long attitudes from Christendom towards same sex things...and the resurgence of the secular (anti-Christian, anti Religion, anti anything restrictive in any form or way) which was designed to attack Christendom and any national sovereign culture, has "shocked people" and they're trying to make sense of everything. To put it simply, the combo of the above two, clashing together creates massive problems (& cognitive dissonance) for people who are trying to find a position for this on themselves.

The relentless (Jewish Zionist) media which has an agenda and which pushes depravity, immorality, hate (passed and inverted as... "tolerance"), racism, all kinds of iniquity and vileness, has latched onto the sexuality issue and uses it as a stick to "poke into the proverbial ant mound of western civilization, and... the world" constantly agitating - using hundreds of millions of decent, innocent people and their human God given sexuality as cannon fodder for their plans.

That's my truth. Does that explain or lead to some better understanding?
I think to surmise people are just mixed up/confused and don't know what to think, and so they take extreme positions. People sense they are being lied to - that the both sides are doing it, and that "who do I trust?" ....its a frantic feeling; a kind of lost-ness that people wish they had an answer; and nobodies interested in the truth. People feel lost, left out in the cold - and they are. What people need to realize is that it's not the answer they seek, it's the absence of "answers", thoughts, people telling us what to think/ or what we should think - propaganda from every side that they need to feel peace, so it's a kind of paradox that way. My advice; we need to be left to ourselves - in quiet - and decide for ourselves.

 

This is exactly how I feel too. I'm bisexual as well and just had to comment because your descriptions are so spot on and I wish more of the general public would understand.

 

Hahaha you are so right! And so good to read that someone else feels like I always have.

Everywhere I go I see women dressed well and clearly making an effort with clothes, diet, exercise. Men on the other hand mostly look like they were dressed by their mum... so yeah, when I sometimes think about if I am 70:30 or 50:50 bi I have to recognise that most men make no effort so the field is skewed. The big exception here is in the gym where men and women both look awesome and wear fitted clothes. In the gym it's 50:50 all the way!

 

I find on the whole, this modern culture so skewed, flawed, idiosyncratic and nonsensical (they just make up trends and then call them popular) ....there is no sense other than that.

I wish we, as a culture had more common sense down to earth views and mores about attraction, looking good etc. Just how and why does Lumbersexual look good? What about a fully masculine man wearing skinny jeans, or men trying their best to look and act slightly like women (this is what this iS), or women wearing these trashy things that make them look like sluts and trash.

Can we please go back to embracing common sense and values? Before I go crazy.

The media is virtually become god-head in our society; how and why did this happen. I don't like it.

 

I have read all the comments in this thread about bisexuality and I don't agree with all of the statements made.

But this one ^ is the most confounding. In particular, this point: "When I sometimes think about if I am 70:30 or 50:50 bi I have to recognise that most men make no effort so the field is skewed." I fail to see how the balance of sexual attraction is so dependent on whether some one is "dressed well and clearly making an effort with clothes, diet, exercise."

Surely, if "Men on the other hand mostly look like they were dressed by their mum" why does this make their gender unattractive. You may not be attracted to a specific man because you don't like his style of clothes, but why would that change your sexual attraction to all other men? Am I missing something, because I cannot make any sense of this?