I agree. Many people including myself get way too caught up in the specific numbers. Honestly days are just mental. It's more about cleaning your mind and never wanting to go back to that lifestyle again. Counting days unconsciously says , "I've been sober this long, and if I reach this point, ill be restored". when in reality most guys hit a certain point and just relapse. It's also really bad when you do relapse because alls you see is all those lost days. When in reality you've made a lot of progress in your brain chemistry and authority of mind. I just relapsed after a 47 day streak, and only fapped one time no porn(tinder). I had this horrible assumption my life was going to be horrible the next 2 weeks, but the next day I actually had a great conversation with a beautiful girl with minor anxiety. Don't let the days control your confidence!
Yeah, I was getting compulsive as well. I was just trying to gauge how Yep, I binge as well. It got very bad for me as well..
ok I tried to remove my signature. I hope, day count wont show up.. I last relapsed before my birthday back in September. Since then all good with no_pm. I dont count my days but by next birthday would be a year My point is even after 1000 days, people might get back the bad habit. So counting days is useless.
It doesn't show up. I changed mine to 500+ days just to make a point ( I think that's the max you can go) I totally respect the people in this thread where counting has helped. If it works for you then great. Though my belief is that at least in the early days you are focusing on the wrong thing and the daily focus on the counter just reinforces and focuses you on the urges, and this increases stress and anxiety. Thats the last thing you want.
I didn't count days before but now I do after a hard relapse, but I do it differently. I don't count in order to reach a goal or a milestone (i.e. I don't say I'm on day 15 now, need to get to day 30). Instead, I say "I'm on day 6 now; 6 days of progress". I treat every single day as a major accomplishment (my reward) and so far it seems to be very motivating. I'm more than certain, that after a few weeks, I will have lost the count or at least not counting on a daily basis (I'm looking forward to that). I feel counting "day 3, day 4, day 5" is more motivational than counting "day 51, 52, 53+".
