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Everything I tried failed.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by bakes, Apr 25, 2018.

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  1. Apr 25, 2018 #1
    bakes

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    Hi everyone. I'm new here. I've read a couple of stories and I know about nofap for a couple of months now. I've tried everything to stop porn and masturbation. Tried only porn. Only masturbation. Tried none at all. But for the last 10 years I always come back to using PMO sometimes more than 5 times a day!!! I'm depressed. I'm unfocused, my self confidence is zero. My fear of people especially women is at its biggest. The longest I've gone without PMO was 45 days. Those were happy days but by the end of it, I felt I was gonna explode. So I gave up and ended up where I started.
    I'm hopeless and feel like it's not going to work. If there are people who need this forum, I'm one of them 100%. So this is the beginning of my journey to finally face this terrible addiction. I'm afraid. But I'm here. Thank you.
     
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  2. Apr 25, 2018 #2
    TheMightyQuinn

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    Welcome, bakes!

    What I was told is that after I tried everything else and failed then I would be open to a new solution. I would become teachable. Do not feel hopeless or in despair. It is possible, you can do it. If other people can do it, so can I, so can you. All I needed was help. Asking for help is the biggest step in recovery. Breaking isolation, reaching out, being honest with someone else about the problem is liberating and can propel you into true liberation if you keep at it.

    You are among friends and kindred spirits here. The people you meet here have been where you have been and many have moved past it.

    8 years ago, I was ready to kill myself. I hated my living guts. Lucky for me, I instead reached out for help. I called a therapist who specializes in sex addiction and, with a cracking voice, said into the phone "I need help". I set up an appointment and at the end of the call she said to me "You took a big step today, Quinn". I really did not believe her. I said something like "If you say so". But she was right. Today I am happily married and I have a wonderful home and a beautiful baby girl who is the joy of my life.

    Best to you in your recovery. Chat me up anytime if you want to reach out.

    Peace,
    -Quinn
     
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  3. Apr 25, 2018 #3
    Clean Plate

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    You havent or else youd be PMO free by now. Keep trying new things dont be afraid to leave your comfort zone. You havent found what works for you because you need to have an "open mind." I learned that that phrase itself sets the foundation for recovery. Keep trying various things from members with over 3 digit "streaks" your bound to find something that works.
     
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