fapped again (damn)

matt75 · Jan 8, 2016

i am new to this group. joined a couple of weeks ago and managed 15 days, but on day 14 i started fapping again while looking at pics of women i know (my brain tried to justify this as okay because it wasnt porn, though i was still doing this to get a kick - so i knew deep down it wasnt a good idea). yesterday i managed to fap and then stop quite a few times, but on day 15 (today) right at the last min as i was about to stop i reached the point of no return. feel crap now. i have been attempting this on and of for about 3 or 4 years now (i used to do a yoga class so was aware of the benefits of semen retention before i knew about nofap site) but the longest i've ever lasted was 6 weeks (when, ironically, i was in a relationship with a woman and having sex). i'm realising more and more with time that i really cant look at ANY titilating images (even of women fully clothed) without eventually ending up fapping. i'm glad i still havent looked at any proper porn, but feel disappointed about ejaculating. it always leaves me feeling tired and depressed. anyway....i am going to start again from today.

GNerd2012 · Jan 8, 2016

I messed up today as well my friend, but the point is that we keep our heads up and just continue on. If you ever get the urge to masturbate, just log onto this site and hit that panic button, or try talking to some of the members on here. Positive support will be a great help for you.

SnowWhite · Jan 8, 2016

Focus on the positive side. Learning goes step by step.
Be happy about reaching a step of 14 days, instead of being disappointed over a so-called "failure".

Most important is to find your goals and to focus on them.
Without clear goals in your mind, you cannot steer your life, and quick distractions will always blow you away.

Hold your goals above you like lodestars.
Whenever you are in trouble, your goals will guide you back.

Icyweb · Jan 8, 2016

Sorry to hear that. Like the others said, don't let it get you down. People fall down all the time. The important thing is to get back up and commit to never falling again. I don't know what your goals are, but here's my advice/take on things. Porn and stuff that you use in place of real porn is always a bad idea, and edging (masturbating but not ejaculating) is always a bad idea. I say this about edging because the dopamine released when you do that numbs your dopamine receptors (the ones that let you feel pleasure) and causes/deepens an addiction to masturbation, and it will often lead to masturbating to orgasm. If you were addicted to soda, you wouldn't swish it around in your mouth but not swallow it. That wouldn't satisfy you, you would still be addicted to the taste, plus you would end up swallowing it anyway.

matt75 · Jan 8, 2016

thanks all for the encouragement. i had that chaser feeling come over me sitting in my house just now, so have gone out to busy myself (one good thing is that i dont have internet at home, so when i want to come on here i have to leave my house). it's good to know there are others on here who know how i feel. i will defo come on here next time it gets difficult.
and icyweb - you are right with the soda analogy - i was thinking the same thing myself after ejaculating. i was thinking about how i used to have a prob with alcohol, but that since i sobered up i dont go and sit in bars or pubs every day.

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