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Feeling off about penis size (any tips?)

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by GripStrength, May 22, 2020.

  1. GripStrength

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    Well I’m feeling kind of weird about my size. I have an amazing girl who says she doesn’t care what so ever about size. And this was helping me. I’m not tiny. But I used to be a lot bigger so already was very self conscious about this. But she says it’s fine and before she was would say stuff like I don’t care at all, and my ex was tiny and I didn’t care. So asked her what she thought about how big a penis is until she would say it’s not small. And I said just base it off your iPhone 6 in the case (googled and it’s 6.16inches long) and she said like a finger tip longer. Would mean she basically thinks penis’s under 7 inches are small. And I was like was your ex longer than the iPhone in the case and she didn’t want to say to not upset me (I could tell), so she’s basically calling her ex’s over 6 inch tiny. Now I’m maybe 6.5 these days bone pressed. Maybeee 7 if I’m lucky, but sometimes like only 6. Damaged myself years ago and used to be over 7.5 so this effects me quite a bit still. I know she doesn’t care and I’m above average. I just feel really weird that she thinks under 7 would be considered small. Anyone have tips to help myself not be so self conscious and hard on myself about this?
     
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  2. It sounds like if she doesn't care, then there's nothing to worry about. I don't really know my length but I've never cared too much. I've also never been laid. If you have a girl who doesn't make a fuss about it, count yourself lucky.

    It's like worrying about your height. I'm 5'7", and there's nothing I can do to make myself taller, so I just have to live with who I am. Same with dick size.
     
  3. GripStrength

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    Ya I know. And she says she really doesn’t care at all and gets annoyed at me for worrying so much. It’s just hard to get over for me for some reason. And I think it’s because it used to be longer maybe. I dunno. Just is hard. And I have trust issues so maybe more time together will help me.
     
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  4. Psalm27:1my light

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    Quit porn and masturbating and your size will come back, at least it did for my husband. Honestly though, I don’t know many women who care all that much about dick size.
     
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  5. GripStrength

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    Yeah, I’m hoping it will come back at least some. Been awhile since I’ve orgasmed, 57 days. But going to go the no edge route. Just a bit hard because we’re separated by the closed border and I get curious if it will work. Good to know your husbands came back. I’ve gained some weight so going to try to get the blood pumping more. Even if it stays smaller. Would be nice to see the whole thing and might help with confidence.
     
  6. Wave tamer

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    I think I phones look a lot smaller than 6” because they’re really wide and boxy, so she’s probably not aware how many inches her phone is, looks a lot different to a p*nis. You’re reading into her reaction too much. You’ll scare her off if you go on about it too much and will make s not as good. Women also come in all sizes. You see d’s on p and think that’s what a woman really wants but it isn’t. I’m pretty long and it hurts some women and they only let you have s with them in missionary, screw up their face and complain it’s hitting their survex! My mate knows some guy at work that’s huge and he asked him if was really good and he said no it’s annoying because most struggle to take it.
    My best se*ual experiences don’t go off who was the tightest. Deep down men care a lot more about size than women do but they do know it effects us, so is an easy weapon to use.
    Get practising on your o technique anyway that’s what sends them crazy:)
     
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  7. RamboErecto

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    Woman wont care your penis size. Is like judge a girl that you like by their tits size. You would like that girl less if their chest is smaller?
     
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  8. If you really think that dick size, height, abs, good looks, man buns, viking beards etc. are needed to make your partner happy, then you are going to have a hard time in life.
     
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  9. startingfresh_90

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    Dont stress over it
    Learn how to make love to her properly, make sure you know how to hse your mouth and fingers, make sure you understand the places on her body that she likes to be touched.
    Maybe take a massage course or something.
    Your penis size really does not mattet, women care more about the way in which you make love to them.
     
  10. Rev2.0

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    A couple responses.

    1) Without getting into specifics, I'm in the OP's range for size and thought for years I was barely or a bit below average. I'm 6 feet tall and the optics I saw in the mirror didn't match what I was seeing in P, where not only are the guys' dicks bigger than normal per se but a lot of them are shorter than 6' in height (in some cases a lot shorter), making it look bigger in comparison, plus they pair the guys with tiny women so the dick looks even bigger. Then I did some research and turns out I'm in the 95th percentile i.e. only 5 guys out of a 100 are bigger than me. If you're packing over 6.5 you should walk around pretty damn confident.

    2) Yes, heavy PMOing and especially edging will cost you size. I have seen recovery in size since starting NoFap but it's not all back yet. I have a "magic number" I'm aiming for at full recovery but if I don't get there it will be damn close and certainly enough for my wife in any case. NoFap will not give you a bigger dick than you were born to have, but it will maximize whatever you've got. Also remember that most women would much rather have 5" rock hard with girth than 7+ that's skinny and/or never gets all the way up. So if you're contemplating enhancement exercises (which I don't recommend) keep that in mind.

    3) Re your GFs comments about her ex. Women are notoriously bad at estimating what a dick of a particular size looks like, and/or recollecting it accurately after the fact. Psychological/emotional filters can come into play big time. If she has bad feelings towards an ex or the sex wasn't good, he could have been 7+ and she'd recall him as 5. And if she still had feelings for him or the sex with him was fantastic, she'll remember his 5 being 7+. If she's calling her ex small yet saying he was over 6" by the iPhone comparison then something's not adding up. For all the talk, there are plenty of women out there who have never seen a legit 7+ incher in real life.

    4) There are a couple of very easy things (or at least things within your control) you can do to increase your perceived size: lose belly fat, and manscape. You don't need washboard abs but if you're flat and smooth below the belt I guarantee any woman you're with will be very happy with what she sees because a lot of guys just don't care enough to put in that level of effort.
     
    Last edited: May 23, 2020
  11. GripStrength

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    Thanks everyone. You are helping me feel less weird about this. I’m trying to tell myself. That yeah, 6.5 and over is good. And either way she loves me. I am 6 feet usually (actually shrinking maybe do to posture or weight) and naturally a big a muscular person. So my penis does look very tiny in the mirror or looking down. So that might be part of why I feel small when I look from the side and my thighs are almost a foot wide and my penis only sticks out like 4 inches. And I did gain more fat over my penis maybe like 1.5 inches. Going to try to lose weight and get more healthy ASAP because I think I might be diabetic because of things happening (getting blurry vision and feeling high after eating a big high carb meal after not eating for a bit). So this might even be a factor of why it is smaller than before as well.

    As for making love. Apparently I have magic hands she says :p. And was like boyyy you know how to use those hands (after I couldn’t get it up). So I could always rely on things like that. She really is very very supportive to me and really makes me feel loved. I was depressed about erections and asked if she’d leave me if I could never get it up. And was just very supportive saying not a chance and that she’d be okay with that she just loves me etc. It’s not all about that to her etc. And like hey you could always use those magic hands.

    I am truly blessed to have found her and love her a lot, and I need to just relax and trust that she feels like that towards me too. Because I’d personally not care if we could never make love for whatever reason. I’d never leave and it seems like she feels the same. I think I do have psychological problems when it comes to self image and self love. And I need to get over it because I really don’t want to negatively effect her. She is helping me a lot. But sometimes it’s nice to hear from other people these positive things. So just thanks everyone.
     
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  12. weiwei1467

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    The whole penis size thing is just a result of evolution, it's not a function of pleasure. Longer dicks are longer dicks to ensure semen are deposited deep inside the female. But guess what! Mother nature also put in other mechanisms such as 'head' size to counter act the effectiveness of it.

    The fact is that dick size have been publicised to correlated to pleasure it is just wrong. There are other factors such as dick angle, thickness, head size, techniques and your game.

    I am an Asian, but i had a Caucasian girlfriend before, SURELY there is no comparison with other white dudes in terms of dick size. But according to her, i was top on her list, despite the length issue....It was because of the other factors i mentioned ... :)
     
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  13. Cioxim

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    I do feel that some women will say things about penis size to manipulate others especially when they know you're sensitive about it.

    I went through something like this in a past relationship and it was a bit mind breaking.
     
  14. Wave tamer

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    Sorry to hear about that it can cut deep. Its character assassination, because there isn’t really a great way to prove it especially when you’re a grower not a shower. And people won’t say it to your face because it’s embarrassing. But people that try to make others feel crap are usually very insecure and bitter. Let them be negative and see what good it does them in the end. Karma and all that:)
     
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  15. IGY

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    Please get an appointment with your doctor and get this checked out without delay. It is a serious condition. So, if you have diabetes, the sooner it is diagnosed the sooner you can start treatment and reduce the damage it does internally.
     
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  16. Yeah if they care that much they a **** lol (jk, but they really you don't want a sexuality where you view your partner as a dildo)
     
  17. Women don't really care about penis size, quit the porn and you'll no longer have that insecurity. Just know how to make love, touch her, be very intimate and she won't even bat an eye about your penis size.
     
  18. GeeJ

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    Don't worry about it 6 1/2 aswell. I understand where your coming from but that is not the only thing she likes or not like.
     
  19. Stp890

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    Size does not matters,what matters is the quality of your erection,and your ejaculatory latency,if you can get fully hard,stay hard and last longer,then you are the man they really need,
    Big but weak penis(+PE possibly) is annoying to them
     
  20. Psalm27:1my light

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    Honestly, even more annoying is delayed ejaculation. I will gladly deal with pe and feel like he’s into me than de where I wonder why he’s isn’t enjoying this.
     
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