Hardmode Only Forum

Yes, but please don't call it "hard mode". I prefer "Freedom mode".

 

Awesome idea Perusan and I totally agree with you. It's got to be really hard to ditch an addiction that connects M and P together without getting rid of both.

 

agree! I would use it

 

No Perusan, I disagree. I think it is important to keep the diversity in the existing sections. You can choose to interact with those you feel an affinity with.

 

I agree that only total abstinence leads to sucess.

But still, it is NOT hard.

I had 7 weeks of success this year, and it was only because I was totally relaxed, I was following an overall plan, and I had made peace with myself.

It was not "hard" at all, in fact it was very peaceful !

 

No, Freedomflight. Everyone knows it as hard mode because it is... er, well... hard. Freedom mode is a misnomer as hard mode is more restrictive.

 

Hey IGY, but I am talking from my own experience !

I had experienced total freedom for 7 weeks this year, the FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE THAT LONG.

And the key factor was a change in my attitude: I stopped thinking like it is "hard", or that I need to "fight". None of that! I made peace with myself, and I made a master plan. Then everything else followed.

 

hi perusan,

i have two goals...
first 28 days hardmode (day 23 today)
second 60 days PMOfree

now to your question. i cant imagine how to do this with edging. this would never be possible for me.
lots of guys are edging here.

there was a time where i was masturbating once a week. that was not an addiction. i was able to control all my urges.

but with access to internet and to all the pornstuff which is offered there - i developed to a pornjunkie. wasted more and more time in front of the screen. never collected stuff. just watched on the free websites.

i am not a scientist but i am sure musturbating and watching porn belongs together. masturbating without porn is boring. there is missing something. porn disturbed my imagination of sexual thoughts. the thoughts are not normal any more because of all the hard stuff i watched.

if i reach a point of healthiness where i can control my urges and i lost all the porn fantasies - then maybe i can masturbate again (without porn).

 

I agree to one: I need to be abstinent of orgasms.

Even if I have totally normal passionate sex with my girlfriend, and even when it's totally fulfilling and passionate and intimate, then during the following time, this leads to a PMO relapse every time.

 

i guess reaching this step is very nice.

currently i am fighting like optimus prime against the decepticons.

 

no edging - i dont touch my little friend. i only edged one time (very short) without porn. wanted to see what happens. the urge to orgasm was so brute strong i had to stop immediately. afterwards never again.

i am fighting because i have all the pictures in my head (all the pornstuff). they proceed in my head all the time.

to your question: porn and masturbation is interwined - that is the right word for description.

i am sure if i would look 5 minutes porn now i would fap like a maniac. without porn i can control the urge.

 

I totally agree, since I'm going hardcore mode.

 

yes - it would be impossible with edging.

no i am not a warrior - i am a monk!

good luck to you perusan.

 

Hi perusan. I am a virgin in hard mode with no edging, masturbating or use of porn. The only sexual 'thing' is an occasional, nocturnal emission of semen (I don't even remember the erotic dream, thankfully). As you are triggered by the posts that articulate your addicted dialogue of rationalisation, I can understand why you started this thread. Personally, I am not triggered by others' views and I find the diversity instructive and enjoyable. I could join other groups or sections on here, but I like to interact in the main areas.

Notwithstanding, you have my respect and good wishes for getting two thirds the way to your goal. That's good going!

 

I do agree that the constant masturbation justification threads get annoying. That and the threads describing peoples sexual exploits.

 

yes, only total bastinece indulge change