Hello everyone, looking for friends to work through this with.

Hey man, congrats that you already noticed that you cannot use porn to escape the reality. Why don't you just create your ideal reality that you never want to escape from it by spending effort yourself? I find two things is critical in my nofap progress: 1.right environment. 2.spirituality (mental hygiene) 3. practice of killing sexual thought. If you can not improve these three things, it is likely you will always falling into the same loop (regret-->positive action(generated by motivation and regret)--> doubt, arrogant ( motivation does not last) --> relapse --> regret) over and over again . I will be more than happy to be your accountability partner, hit me up if you have any question for anything I mention above, I will give you more detailed information. Hope it helps!

 

Welcome. Glad you are here.

Take some time to read the reboot material and come up with a plan for what you will do when you are faced with urges. It has good advice, so don't skip it!

Perhaps start writing a journal - if you feel comfortable telling people about happened and what's going on now, you will start to feel accountable to them. You may even inspire others. It's a nice feeling! This will help your recovery.

Also, IRL, try to add something into your life that makes you the kind of person who doesn't engage in PMO. Think about doing:
Something you enjoy
Something you're good at
Something important
Something for somebody else, without thought of reward (and if you DO get an unintended reward, do something ELSE, perhaps for a different person or group).

Read the journals of others - we all learn from each other. For example, I received the above good advice from a far more experienced member of the community who shared his knowledge. Don't just stay within your own age group or part of the world. Read, learn, apply.

Look around the forums, get to know people. Everyone is friendly, and will try to support you. We're all in the same boat here.

Be kind to others and others will be kind to you, both here and IRL.

May I also suggest you look for a user by the name of Fix_It_Mate? He's a friend of mine, who might be able to empathise well with your situation and background.

I wish you a successful reboot.

 

Hi There,
Im the same as you a, student working on quitting FAp. Im a virgin and don't use porn really but I keep returning to mas...... Need a partner to tell me it's important to stick to a plan and quit!