HELP: Dumped bc I can't go for second round

You are not coming to this relationship in a good place. You should start a relationship happy of yourself yo share your happiness with her. If you are in a bad place you are going to share your bad present with her. You should be happy because of your life, not because you are dating again.

You are paying the price of porn and fapping. It take time to heal, you are making progress but it's going to take some time to be 100% recovered.

More improvemens, you are not there yet. Keep working on it.

is not your problem that you are not fullfilling her expectations of sex. There are woman that are happy with just one round. At this moment of your recovery you can delivery 1 round, if she is not satisfied with that then is her problem, not yours.

No is not, everyone is different. You don't need to be they way she want you to be.

Again, her problem. She has high spectations and she is pushing you to do something you are not ready to do. If you are not horny for a second round, then she need to respect it.
Let's turn this around, what would happen if you want to go for a 2nd round and she tell you she is tired already. Would you bring the same drama she is bringing or you would say ok, and try to have sex with her other day? There are a lot of guys that even get rejected for round 1 (ask married guys).

Don't do that.. showing weakness to a woman is going to turn her off completely.
You are not in a good place in your life, you are sharing that with her. That's why is better to date when you are in a good place in your life.

Excess porn and masturbation cause lost in livido. Depression also, so.. you are healing. You need to give it time. At them moment you are up to only one round. That's what you can give. If she wants more, then she should get it from someone else and you shoud date a woman that is happy with one round.

Why are you with her? a woman should be your 1st chearleader, the one supporting you and lifting you up. She sounds like a bitch, she is complaninig when her needs are not met and forgeting about what you feel or what is happening in your life.

You really need to work on yourself to be happy again. No porn and overcome your depression issues.
Once your succes in that and start dating again you are not going to put up with a woman that is behaving like this.

 

Plenty of young, virile men can only go one round. Thats called refraction period, and it's individual for everyone. Depression and compulsive masturbation will of course decrease sexual ability, but even when stabilized, sex can't always be more than once a day.

She seems to only want you for sex and have no other interest in you. That means you probably shouldn't pay so much attention to what her opinion is like.

What stands out about your story is not whether you have any dysfunction, but rather that she actually does.

 

I completely agree with what has been said above. This Woman does not sound like the right one for you.
You seem to already feel negative about the sexual encounters you’ve had with her and the reactions she had only compounded your negative feelings. This may cause you to be very “in your own head” if and when another sexual encounter happens with this particular woman. It will most likely take you out of the moment and cause a similar outcome. As far as going for one round only, on any given day that can change. Being in the mood for only one round isn’t actually a problem at all. If you’re feeling extra horny, like after a long streak, maybe you’ll want more than one round. You shouldn’t feel forced to have sex if you’re not in the mood.

Stay off porn, stay hydrated, eat clean, work out, and you’ll have healthier erections. I noticed a drastic increase in EQ after paying attention to hydration and drinking more water. It has changed everything. Good luck my Brother!

 

1. there are lots of ways to have sexual intimacy without an erection
2. You should not be shamed for how your body acts - that's wrong
3. She sounds mean in general, take a step back and think about that
4. How would she act if you got mad she didn't get wet a second or third time on command?
5. Take care of yourself, but her words are not helping - don't be afraid to tell her

 

Depends on individual of course, and their lifestyle. I can easily go 3 times a night - but that's only happened with my wife on rare occasions, usually once or twice a night a couple of nights a week is my lot, and that's because I always want the sex - I'm sure she would be happier with less tbh! And my wife is only 32!