hi, i'm new.. :P

Welcome rubix. All that I know about stopping completely I have posted, here:

http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2402-Get-educated-get-tools-and-learn-to-love-withdrawals

I invite you to read my story and explore my method for quitting.

Good luck to you on your journey.

 

Hi! Just wishing you all the best. Have you been over to the main forums? Get stuck in and see what grabs your attention and help and be helped just by making an honest contribution.

I quit heavy drinking, cigarettes, and cannabis on the same day in 2008 after 25 years of use and abuse. I haven't touched any of them since and now I'm doing the same with PMO.

And I don't mention that to brag (25 years of use and abuse is nothing to brag about!) I say it to encourage and to offer hope.

Addiction is addiction and to overcome it we MUST make fundamental changes in the way we think and behave which in turn will change our and habits so learn everything you can, KNOW you can do this (knowing is so much stronger that believing) and see this as an adventure in which your potential is infinite (and it's only you who have been getting in your own way)

But you have to be truly up for it and in a nutshell I would suggest in the beginning you learn as much as you can about the problem then focus on the solution which is to STOP AND STAY STOPPED and if I could give you seven words to memorize, ponder, tatoo on your forhead(!) they would be...

'The price of freedom is eternal vigilance'

...and the longer you go the more that will start to make sense!

Just in case your interested I've put the three main resources I used to help change my thoughts/behaviours in my signature below. I can't recommend them enough (especially the 'Changing for Good' book whichis an amazing blueprint for LASTING positive change) but this is your journey and these are only suggestions. You will get plenty of other equally valid advice as there's a very healthy balance of perspectives on this site and together we are making a meaningful, positive, lasting difference which I for one am thrilled to be part of.

Anyways, stay strong and keep going ...http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2660-Keep-going&p=15194#post15194


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Welcome to the group! Resolve to stop now!

 

How? I thought you deleted your porn and blocked the sites.

 

Ok rubix, let's understand what porn is. Porn isn't just porn. Porn is seeing porn, it is watching it, it is thinking about it, it is imagining it, it is remembering it, it is thinking about it while MOing even if you are not actually watching it, it is PMOing, it is fantasizing, it is porn substitutes. For me, when I first started quitting, I told myself I was making progress because I moved from very hardcore stuff to Google images, where I searched vanilla nudes. Bikini pics trigger me. Lingerie models trigger me. Hooters girls trigger me. Just girls on the street trigger me if I let them, but I don't. I consciously have decided not to let hypersexualized images linger in my head. Before, I was not making progress, I was still feeding my dopamine fix. You have to avoid your triggers, not flirt with them. Your triggers are not going to be merely the hardcore stuff you are trying to quit watching, they will be much softer stuff than can pop out on you from benign sites like Yahoo, Craigslist, Google. You have know that in advance and plan on avoiding them. You have to get your dopamine levels back down. That will take time (could be 30 days) and requires a total absence of porn in your head. If you are walking down the street in the middle of the day thinking about porn, you are using porn, so find something else to pop in your head if that situation occurs.

 

You looked because you're an addict.

Say it.

 

Listen you will progress as long as you put YOUR ALL into it. That means when you find yourself looking at images TURN THE COMPUTER OFF. If you find yourself thinking about PMO Meditate or something.

Check Out these links they may help:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bSh1uQ3K6J8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=at21uKqawJA
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yVw6nQikLF8

 

I find that I enjoy porn and masturbating a lot. What helps me sometimes is to think of something more fun. Find things you would rather focus on instead of PMO. Than it won't be as much of a struggle to not think of things that weaken your resolve. Actively doing something with your thoughts is best.

Things will get easier. Your will power will get stronger. You can do this!