Hocd cure thread MUST READ!

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Machomachine, Nov 10, 2017.

  1. Machomachine

    Machomachine Fapstronaut

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    Hello gentleman.
    As the title states I would like to talk about how I cured my hocd and or same sex arousal..

    Like all of you, ive looked at straight porn and identified as straight for almost all of my life..and it only took a slight arousal to something gay to make my life a living hell.

    Shocker!
    You will get groinal responses to any type of sexual activity portrayed whether gay or straight, and you are only empowering your groinal response with stress as well as by focusing on it...

    What has happened is in the state of panic you forgot what I had just mentioned directly above and trick yourself into believing the reason you are getting aroused is tied to something much more than it actually is.

    This might sound simple, but you've essentially attached a meaning behind your arousal.

    And that's it.

    So ask yourself what are you telling yourself to sort of explain why you have these attractions?

    When you find out what it is, simply stop accepting it as any sort of reason behind your arrousals.

    I mean that completely..
    Here's an example of what had helped me:
    I believed the reason I was getting these weird arousal was because I had hocd, and that my arousal was connected to it somehow.

    By accepting I had an hocd I only made myself have more frequent groinal responses as well as more anxiety.

    In end result it only worsened my state of mind.

    Because again I was attaching something important to something as simple as a infrequent arousal.

    With believing I had hocd I would try everything but only fail..
    Abstaining from pornography did nothing, so did exposure and response prevention.

    At that point after 9 years of hell I thought to myself why was I so focused on my arousal still?
    Why wasn't the ocd treatment or abstaining from porn not working?

    For whatever reason, I thought to myself I don't have hocd..and poof my anxiety groinal response and desire to look to see if I was aroused disappeared..

    Crazy as it sounds
    It took me 9 years to finally realize this.

    dont let it do the same for you.

    Remember groinal responses only happen when you focus attention on the matter.

    So by giving yourself a reason to have them you are going to continue to have them.
     
  2. WittLowryfan0915

    WittLowryfan0915 Fapstronaut

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    These last few days have been living hell for me! I keep having these weird thoughts, and it just makes me so nervous and makes me think that I might be gay. But another part of me thinks that it's just a part of growing up. Idk anymore, I hope this is just a phase
     
  3. Ranjan2920

    Ranjan2920 New Fapstronaut

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    Could you plz help me to get out from this hell ?
     
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  4. Axton Betz

    Axton Betz Fapstronaut

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    It took me days to get out of it. Tnx to this forums. I did the same thing. I laughed abt the thought and cracked some jokes and its gone Lol.. :)
     
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  5. Axton Betz

    Axton Betz Fapstronaut

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    Bro this will help you.
    It took me days to be exact 4 days to get out of it. Tnx to all the forums. I did the same thing. I laughed abt the thought and cracked some jokes and its gone Lol.. :)
     
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  6. Axton Betz

    Axton Betz Fapstronaut

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    Its you want you can tell your very close friend as well. I did that my friend told me he had the same problem at some point of time and we laughed about it.. Lol. And don't take porn seriously. Watch it enjoy it forget it. There lot of things that you can take seriously..
     
  7. Tiger123

    Tiger123 New Fapstronaut

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    One day in ... so far this technique cured my depresion and suicide thougsts ... thats very strange It works like reverse psychology. But it works. My anxiety is only there when I think of it. Its all about your mindset. When you are afraid u r not straight ... you will be terified forever but just tell yourself. You dont have anything and this is normal, witch it actually is, You will be okay. I will add another post in week and share if something changed. THE FACT THAT YOU FOCUSE ON IT IS THE KEY. PS: I had a really strong homosexual dream. Normally i would wake up and be deppresed As FUCK. Now I just said to myself that the dream was just stupid and moving on in life. This will keep bully away ;)
     
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  8. Tiger123

    Tiger123 New Fapstronaut

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    Day Two In this technique - anxiety dropped about a half of original strength. There are still some really strong spikes but i try to keep them in check. Forgive myself for it and try to move on. The really hard thing is to not check becouse I´ve had it for 2 months straight and Im confused. Its always on my mind so its a little bit hard, but I recon it can be managed. The real problem lies in fear that I dont like women anymore. I used to be horny fuck. I fantasised on every ocasion I got, but that kinda makes me neutral now. Anyways, Day- 3 HERE I COME! Here is hopin!
     
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  9. Uruvug

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    That's interesting. I've heard of a lot of people that start off watching straight porn and at some point develop an interest and arousal response to gay porn. It seems like a common topic in these forums so I guess it happens a frequently. To me that has not happened but I want to share an experience of mine about how some of my tastes of porn were modified through time and why.

    A long time ago I had a girlfriend that had an intermittent relationship with me. We would get together, then we would break up, she would even date another man in between and then we would get together again as boyfriend and girlfriend, and so on. The fact that she had been with another man/men in between bothered me a lot but it was during the moments that we had broken up so I tried not to think much about it plus I was very attracted to her so I put up with that discomfort. One time she left me her laptop since she wanted me to fix something on it. And while I had it I came upon a video that she had probably forgotten about that was still there. It was sitting in the recycle bin folder for a long time, but she had not permanently deleted it since she was not very computer savvy. It was a sex tape that this other guy had recorded while having sex with her. When I saw it, it wrecked me completely. I wished I had not seen that because I could not look at her the same way again. It caused me a lot of pain seeing the girl that I was so attracted to and had deep emotional attachments to, getting pounded by this guy and hearing her moan to it (sorry for the language, but those images just come to mind right now), but strangely it kind of aroused me in a very weird way. I saved the video in my own computer and would tortured myself watching that, even long after we separated (I still watch them sometimes). I would even masturbate to it and have the craziest orgasms. My whole body would tremble and I would have this strange feeling in my stomach like a nervous feeling that was very intense. It was like pleasure and pain at the same time and a lot of anxiety so I guess that would shoot up my dopamine levels. I had to go easy on them because I would even get indigestion and lose my appetite and it was heading me in a bad direction. I started to notice after that that my taste for porn started to change more towards cuckold videos and stuff like that. i would get furious to myself for getting into those type videos, but it just aroused me a lot. I have tried to change that because it puts me in a weak and beta frame of mind. Now when I watch the videos, the effects are not nearly as strong, since she is now a distant memory in the past but watching them is still enjoyable.

    Anyways I just thought about sharing this experience of mine here. Our brains are susceptible to certain things and then we end up changing our tastes. again sorry for the graphic language, hopefully I don't trigger anybody here.
     
  10. Tiger123

    Tiger123 New Fapstronaut

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    Here I stand. I think I have beaten the HOCD ... altho ... it left me ... quite empty inside.(I think thats a good thing) You see ... it has been part of my life for 2 months straight. Every day. Every single day for 65 days straight I was like "Am I gay? Do I feel aroused? I want to be straight. I am straight." Finding a reasons and reasurance that I am straight. I still have some thoughts but I dont pay attention to them I just let them pass they are annoying for the most part. Anxiety? still a litttle bit yeah ... But I dont pay attention to that neither. What I am feeling right now is nothing. I feel nothing. I just dont care. I feel no attraction to men nor women alike. I have become sexually neutral. And I dont know If that is a good thing. I surely hope so. Anyways I´ll keep you up to date as soon as things change.
     
  11. Igor1234

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    So, how are you feeling now? Is it better now or the same neutral feeling?
     

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