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How can I help my long distance boyfriend?

Discussion in 'Partner Support' started by winkyex, Oct 29, 2021.

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  1. Oct 29, 2021 #1
    winkyex

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    Hi there! I'm not sure if this is where I should make the thread, but I hope it is. I'm new to this forums.

    I've (23F) been with my boyfriend (25M) for almost three years and ever since I met him he's been trying NoFap with different degrees of success. Whenever we are together (he staying in my house or we going out to the beach for the weekend) he has no trouble and we have an amazing sex life. His troubles are when he is alone.

    We go out on dates almost every other weekend, but we spend the night together once a month or less. It's a mixture of Corona, not having a place of our own and studies that prevent it. We live an hour away and I'm not allowed to visit him that often.

    For me it's really not a big deal (though it hurts me) and it doesn't really affect our relationship, but once in a while he would text me he broke his streak and how he couldn't sleep much because of it.

    We've tried talking during one of his urges and it seem to help him, but he mostly forgets that he can call me (doesn't matter the time) and he rather do things that solely depend on him.

    I know it affects him really much, and that he really is trying not to do it, so I want to help him as much as I can. Do any of you have some tips of things I can do or tips I can give him to help him in this?
     
    winkyex, Oct 29, 2021
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  2. Oct 30, 2021 #2
    p1n1983

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    @winkyex is not your job to fix him. Is his own job to get his shit together. Your job is to be a supportive girlfriend if you notice that he is really trying to work to solve this. Help him when he ask you to and support him over the phone and encorage him to keep fighting. No matter how much you want him to heal, he is the only one that can help himself out of this addiction.
    If it hurt you, then it matters.

    Now, if he keep consuming eventually it will affect the relationship, he can become a little bit cold or can start to have problems in bed or lack of libido for real sex.
     
    p1n1983, Oct 30, 2021
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  3. Nov 4, 2021 #3
    happenstance

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    Honestly I can’t see how it is not affecting the relationship else you wouldn’t be here asking about it. And yes it really is a big deal.
     
    happenstance, Nov 4, 2021
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  4. Nov 30, 2021 #4
    legendracer79

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    We are in a similar situation and live about an hour from each other and usually see each other on weekends. It's fine when we are together and it really doesn't bother me but he has started to to take steps to address his porn addiction and to curb his urge to masturbate as he has realized one leads to the other. We have been quite successful so far with having him call me if he feels like he may be tempted and also make sure he gets to orgasm fully when we are together.
     
    legendracer79, Nov 30, 2021
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