Hey, I guess, I'm on the road to recovery for around 3 years now. The last 1,5 years, I've done pretty will, living without porn, except for a few relapses. I live in a relationship for 7 years now and I struggle to find a way back into a normal sex life, whatever that would mean exactly. Well, I guess I know roughly, what that means to me: Sexual intereaction as two people, as subjects ... with abusing each other as objects. That's what sex was like the first couple of years: I would either dress my girlfriend the way I wanted it or think about stuff that turned me on, during sex. Means ... it was no real interaction. So, the ideal scenario for sex would be: We both are naked and our thoughts are on the current situation and on one another. One problem is, that "just a naked body" doesn't turn me on at all. I guess I could learn ... to be turned on by that. But we sort of tried that and ... it didn't work too well. I rely so heavily on my fantasies. So for a while we tried to just cuddle naked and not put so much attention on genitalia. But somehow it's time to to somehow get back to penetration etc. ... or, whatever is normal. I really don't know. I kinda feel lost but avoiding sex forever cannot be the solution. We will find a way. But maybe someone here has further experience on the subject and wants to share. Maybe I should add more concrete questions for you to share your experience: How did you reestablish sex life? How long did it take? What was the problems?