I am confused though I still like girls!

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SomeoneSaveMe

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Hey there!
I posted this thread for I had been in this problem since a young age. I was 14 when I watched porn for the first time and since the past 5 years, I have been battling myself. Actually, the first porn video I watched was accidentally a humiliation video and since I was a bit young to understand all of this, I continued to go with the suggestions. Feeling for girls had started arriving when I was mere 12 years old and I still have them but the problem with me is that I can't stop myself from masturbating and often when I feel to horny and masturbate more than once a day, I end up fantasizing about getting cucked or getting fucked.
I wouldn't have had any issues had I known I was gay but looking at boys I never get erections, its all about girls. That's why I never understand who I am and what do I like? Please help if you think you can.
 
@SomeoneSaveMe

Hey there,

First, welcome. You are among friends and have found the right site to quit pmo (porn masturbation orgasm).

You are 100% correct about being straight if you like women.

You've fallen into a common pit of pmo, finding fetish videos that overwhelm the mind. There is no way reality can compete with online porn. As the brain gets the high from it's own chemicals, it craves and demands more - just like any addiction.

So, relax about worrying if you are gay. You are not.

What to do then? It's simple, but hard.

Download the "Getting Started" guide and read it. It took me several times reading it before I saw myself in it.

Next, clean house. Clean your computer of porn, clean your bookmarks, your accounts on the various "tube" sites, remove any masturbation materials from where you fap and no internet devices in your bedroom after bedtime.

Start a reboot of your brain with a period of no pmo. A "hard" reboot in normally no pmo for 90 days. But, I prefer one day at a time.

Start a journal. They are in the age forums.

L
 
StopTheMusic said:
@SomeoneSaveMe

Hey there,

First, welcome. You are among friends and have found the right site to quit pmo (porn masturbation orgasm).

You are 100% correct about being straight if you like women.

You've fallen into a common pit of pmo, finding fetish videos that overwhelm the mind. There is no way reality can compete with online porn. As the brain gets the high from it's own chemicals, it craves and demands more - just like any addiction.

So, relax about worrying if you are gay. You are not.

What to do then? It's simple, but hard.

Download the "Getting Started" guide and read it. It took me several times reading it before I saw myself in it.

Next, clean house. Clean your computer of porn, clean your bookmarks, your accounts on the various "tube" sites, remove any masturbation materials from where you fap and no internet devices in your bedroom after bedtime.

Start a reboot of your brain with a period of no pmo. A "hard" reboot in normally no pmo for 90 days. But, I prefer one day at a time.

Start a journal. They are in the age forums.

L
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I have started a journal and to be honest I don't have any porn in my computer or bookmarks. My bookmarks include sites that include novels or social media sites. Starting from 90 feels too tough for me.....I guess I can go with 3-4 days for a start and gradually increase the gap till the time I quit PMO?
 
Welcome! I'm glad you're here.

I just want to encourage you: you can do this. It will be hard, and it may seem like you're climbing an impossible mountain, but just take it one day at a time. One. Single. Day.

And I believe if you leave the porn and masturbation behind, you will get a lot of clarity and peace. It will be work, but it will be worth it.
 
@SomeoneSaveMe

SomeoneSaveMe said:
3-4 days for a start and gradually increase the gap till the time I quit PMO?
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Hey,

Yes.

And before you start a hard reboot, take a deep breath. Relax. It's important, but you don't have to fix it all in one day. A good plan is important to keep yourself on your reboot.

And can I say you are so correct, 90 days sounds impossible. It's not, it just sounds that way. I prefer to take it one day at a time. Today I didn't pmo and I don't plan on pmo'ing tomorrow. For me, that's working for now. It's been a few weeks.

Can't wait to hear more about how you are doing. I don't wish good luck, I think it's more like "keep the faith". Faith that there is a better life available if you reboot and begin a healthy sex life.

L
 
Well, Day 2:

So today went quite well. We had a Diwali party in the night and I think I did nice enough to control myself. Looking at girls, I had many erections and even though I was with my frnds, at intervals I looked at girls and then looked away. Well keeping that aside, I had a strange and confusing dream last night.

In the dream, I was asking a girl if we could sleep together and then her brother banged me and I banged his sister. Kinda funny I guess.

Cheers

Day 2 done <3
 
SomeoneSaveMe said:
Starting from 90 feels too tough for me.....I guess I can go with 3-4 days for a start and gradually increase the gap till the time I quit PMO?
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It feels impossible. I started off aiming at a 30 day reboot, then when I got theire aimed for 90, etc. Starting with manageable goals also give you a chance to celibrate your success early. Good luck.
 
@SomeoneSaveMe

Congrats. NoFap's goal is a normal healthy sex life. So, going to a party an noticing girls that you find attractive is normal (by "girls" I mean age appropriate).

As for the dream - it's a dream. If you were at that party and you noticed the good looking females, you were doing what normal healthy males do. Just remember to be respectful and that women are people too with all the feelings and rights of all people.

@kropo82 I agree with your thoughts about a smaller goal, then a bigger goal.

L
 
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