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I just don't get it

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Daviesmark1, Apr 22, 2016.

  1. Apr 22, 2016 #1
    Daviesmark1

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    Just to make things clear before I start, i DONT have a porn addiction and never have, I masturbate to images.

    I'm 17 years old and I always feel and act awkward. Around my girls which are mainly girls, I just feel so on edge ; but they're meant to be my best friends:/ I talk relatively quietly and the females dominate the conversations we have , when it's usually guys that dominate . I just have low self esteem atm.

    I made it to 7 days last week and relapsed.. Went another 7 days today and just relapsed. The reason for this , I felt worse than I do when masturbating normally! I was groggy, moody, wasn't talking much, one of my friends was crying about problems and I approached in such a bad way " what's wrong? Oh loads of things , and I just said do you really need to worry about them" like I look back at It and just think what even am I . My personality used to be fun and exciting , now even I think I'm boring and monotone ! That's how I feel when talking . I haven't seen any benefits, I know I was only a week in on both occasions but.... I just don't know anymore .

    Do things really change in terms of personality, confidence and voice tone?
     
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  2. Apr 22, 2016 #2
    traveller22

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    Hi there.

    It's natural to feel discouraged when you start out, but remember - rebooting your mind-body takes around 90 days.

    Have you visited yourbrainonporn.com yet? If not, spend some time on there & read.

    You are going to go through all sorts of feelings & uncomfortable emotions during your reboot, but you just have to push through, get busy with other things, hang out with your friends & stuff...

    Be patient. It's gonna take time.

    We're here for you.

    Keep checking in regularly.

    T22.
     
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  3. Apr 22, 2016 #3
    masterballs

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    You and I are in the same boat, buddy.
    I have looked into this phenomenon avidly since I joined this community. This is what is happening to you: when you masturbate, you saturate your brain with dopamine, the 'happiness drug'. Because of that, your brain develops a resistance to it.

    Now, life is full of other little things that give you dopamine as well. Such as enjoying the company of others, humour, beauty, and any other things that everyone normally enjoy. But because your brain created a resistance towards dopamine, you are resistant to the stimulus of all those little happy moments AS WELL. Life feels as if you had turned down the volume on everything.

    The only way to fight this, is to make yourself sensitive to dopamine again. To achieve this, the first thing you need to do is to stop oversaturating your brain with dopamine.

    I hope this helps.
    Cheers!
     
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  4. Apr 22, 2016 #4
    Daviesmark1

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    Thank you for the very helpful response! I get what you're saying totally! Thanks!
     
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  5. Apr 22, 2016 #5
    Daviesmark1

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    Ok thank you:) and yes I have looked at that website
     
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  6. Apr 22, 2016 #6
    Awakening123

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    These are withdrawals and changes come very gradually; so it's too early to say anything until you have gone 90 odd days. Good luck!
     
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