Is death grip part of my ED problem too

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Jim66, Oct 4, 2020.

  1. Jim66

    Jim66 Fapstronaut

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    Hi guys,
    I wanna start by saying i have suffered with erection problems for about 4 years now and wanna get back to my old self, i often M with a flaccid as i cant get hard easy like i did before this issue started. I have been using porn everyday pretty much for the past 6-8 years. My D is mostly numb and im wondering of death grip os real and if i can cure it and get sensation back it may help me get hard. I am determined to stop PMO and M altogether. I cant even get hard when my wife is lay there practically begging for it and it is crushing me. I use a small does of the blue pill, maybe 3-6 mg will kick start things.
    I will say my nocturnal erections and my morning wood have decreased drastically over the past two years. I am 36, fit and active, i have good cardio health from running and cycling so i feel its very much the anxiety issues but maybe some physical too And of course porn, which has been getting more and more extreme over the years And i need to quit now!!
    Has anyone else had similar issues with ED and loss of sensation and got it back after a period and cured their ED. My erections four years ago were great and instantaneous and i want my old self back. Please help with any advice.
    I am starting over after only being able to get to 6 days NoFap and no PMO but its time to change my life...
     
  2. OhWhenThe

    OhWhenThe Fapstronaut

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    I had/have the same problem. I don't know whether it's the death grip, the porn or the orgasms(or a combo of all three) but I gave it all up and after 57 days my libido started to come back, the horny sensation was returning and my dick wasn't numb anymore. By day 60 it was pretty much uncontrollable and eventually at day 63 I relapsed, after that the numbness was more or less back again so I guess I really need to just never do it(P and M) again. Right now I can still get hard but it's just numb.

    So in answer to your question, yes I'm confident that you can get it working just fine again if you can give it all up. The only problem is I really believe that total abstinence is needed(or is at least by far the most efficient way) but of course when you have a partner that's not so easy to do.
     
  3. eric9000k

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    Hard choice pal but I'll give you my best take on it.

    Death grip real? Big time yes. Bet it's also related to less bj's too in the long term as it's an activity she is supposed to perform not have performed on her. As soon as they feel like you're using them to masturbate things change.

    Complete abstinence? Really tough decision. On one hand your psychological malfunctioning needs to heal on the other you have a wife to please, you're 36, and like wtf if you're 36 and married you're supposed to be having good sex like 99% of the time right?

    Abstaining from porn and masturbation? It's a lifelong change that you need to commit to. Nothing else to say about that.

    What do I think you can do to make your situation positive? Approach your wife and tell her you need a tentative 90 day break from sexual intercourse but you'll happily take the time in the process to re-learn how to satisfy her completely. Explain that if you get a spontaneous erection in the process you will use it correctly but request that she support you unconditionally for the next 90 days as you regain control and that includes pleasing her in the process. Damn son. That's what you should do.
     
  4. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Was starting to get the same symptoms and went for 35 days PMO free and performance came back. And I am much older than you. Only 36 years old and your equipment doesn't work? Look into your PMO habit. And kick it.
     
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