is there something more to being "virgin" or "non-virgin" ?

[silex_jedi]

hello,

[a small introduction]
twenty three and a half years old. i never had sex as they say... might be that i am careful, overthinking, self deprecating, or not interested in this particular girl. even though, i have enjoyed dancing with girls a few times, even though i have hugged girls with all my heart, even though i had times when a girl and myself where in a strong spiritual connexion, even though i am rewiring, learning to think new ways to think, i try to focus on my life, i don't like myself that much NOW, don't want to be poison to a female partner for the moment. flirting is fun but that's it. sorry i have no better proposition for you my lady at this time.

[the question]
i find quite a turn off to listen to people talk about sex (with close friends i am more open to listen as i can get out of my comfort zone), i am not interested in THEIR stories, i find it too intimate. BUT here we can talk openly and anonymously... and there is something that i want to ask...

besides being to be able to say "i fucked", being male, is there something more to "having had sex at least one time" ?​

 

[MarioCorrelos]

I can't talk for anybody else, but in my case it never was about the "physical act". It always was about feeling valid and accepted, and knowing that I could be liked/loved/whatever-you-wanna-call-it enough as to engage in such a relationship with someone. And that boosted my self-confidence, I was not anymore that guy that wasn't good enough and that girls didn't see with that intention.