Is there something wrong with me? Im look at women on the street and i lust after them

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by juayboy79, Oct 14, 2019.

  1. juayboy79

    juayboy79 Fapstronaut

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    I made tge right decision to quit watching porn and fapping. I been able to clear 14days. However, my lusting for women on the street has not clear up. This is particularly cgallenging when the women are beautiful, cute imo. More so of they were revealing clothes. I should not objectify them but its hard. Am i ok?
     
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  2. I can relate. Been off PMO for a month, but i find myself lusting over women in public worse than before. I travel alot on my job, so im riding around a lot and im constantly spotting women on the street that turn me on, and i find myself making comments about their sexy features. Sometimes to the point where i get hard. I guess my brian is channeling some of that sexual tension thats not being released by pmo, into lusting after women. Even when i get hard because of them, i dont MO and after a minute im.back to normal. I think as long as i dont act on it, ill be fine.
     
  3. _hiro_php

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    I am on the same page, looking for woman on street can lead me to lust thoughts
     
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  4. Very true were all hard wired to like things we find attractive.
     
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  5. I’d say its a good sign, as long as it doesnt get problematic for you or for the girls.

    Like imagine being one of those guys who only can get aroused by girls on a computer screen? That would be worse.

    Relax buddy, youre normal :)

    Edit; make sure not to do the ”deer in headlights-stare” on them though, that would most likely make them feel kind of stalked.
     
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  6. Probably 90% of males on earth do this, but that doesn't make it a good thing or acceptable. It will give you urges to watch porn and objectify women.
     
  7. newuseroctober

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    its not really anything to worry about, as long as you dont stare at them or make them feel uncomfortable. its normal for good looking people to catch your eye, you can appreciate beauty without leering
     
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    Thanks for the advice. I just lookat them lilw briefly then look down. But i will make a quiet comment like nice tits, looks yummy, wow very tall, nice butt etc and walk away.

    NoFap no porn. Worst i take the subway daily and the view is a killer for me
     
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    nothing wrong brotha. Your brain needs to revert back to its original state. Just take a deep breath everytime that happens. It’s normal. Women look good. Your not the only person looking at her. This happens to me at the gym. There’s a couple girls with tight bodies and I just want to know how good they look naked. But when I realize my thoughts, I just breath and let them pass. It’s all in your head, stick to reality
     
  10. fredisthebes

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    I think you need to recognise the difference between a normal appreciation of women/beauty and P-inspired fantasy. Are you imagining her or imagining watching P with her as the star? At the height (depth?) of my addiction I'd be heading home to search for a girl that looked like her on my favourite P-site. Now, maybe I'll smile at her and walk away. Or maybe I'll keep my head down.
     
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  11. I am currently on the same page too. Sometimes I am constantly checking women around me and evaluate them. It annoys the heck out of me. On my good days I am in a way better mood. I do not objectify people around me. I am more interested to socialize and I am more curious.

    Yeah... Just accept the thoughts and let them pass.
     
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    Exactly!! Porn addiction and masterbation kinda take away the one thing we need to mate and feel fulfilled in life. And that is confidence in reality. You mention on good days you feel confident and ready to socialize. I begin to notice that too once I’m away from P / masterbating. It’s like a biological thing. Your body wants you to be the best version of yourself. Let it happen!
     
  13. theotherone209

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    I will agree with those who are assuring you this is normal and OK. What's wrong with being attracted to a woman? I don't think our goal should be to kill that natural reaction. Even to the point of being a bit horny or hard about it. The difference for US, is that this normal and OK reaction can easily lead to more actions that are not OK for what we're trying to accomplish (again, this is just for us, I'd even argue that for someone who doesn't have a porn addiction, that's its OK to go home and masturbate to a particularly memorable woman every once in awhile). So don't feel bad that you notice and feel things, but just maintain discipline. You know what would be too far: just noticing and letting your mind wander momentarily seems ok to me, anything beyond that should probably be repressed during your reset. imho
     
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