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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Dec 29, 2016.

Are you in?

  1. Yea! I plan on stopping porn and masturbation for life anyways so why not. Might as well start now!

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    74.1%
  2. I'm not sure I can do it, but I will try it and see how it goes. If I fail at least I've tried!

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  3. Hell yea! I love challenge an it would be cool to say that I did this for whole yer! Let's do this!

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  4. I don't know if I even want this, but hey, if I chance my mind I can always stop. Nothing to lose!

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  5. No. It's too intimidating for me, I prefer to go one small step at a time.

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  6. Hell no! Are you crazy? Why would I even want to give up MO?! Porn yea, but MO?!

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  7. I don't plan to stop watching P and MO'ing. I don't know what I am even doing on this website.

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  8. I will think about it and maybe join later. Maybe.

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  9. No. I don't get why would want to give up an O for a year, even during sex?! P and M yes, but O?!

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  1. It's good in a way that it is healthy for your mind (assuming that you don't overdo it, too much stimulation via real sex can still be destructive if done in excess and if done in a wrong way). I mean, it's not porn or your solo hand but a real person. So nothing wrong about it in essence. It's natural. And ultimately once we are free from PMO/MO that's the place we wanna be into.

    HOWEVER, orgasm during sex still stimulates the brain in almost the same way as orgasm during PMO/MO does. So but doing this you might be still activating some neural-connections in the brain that are linked to porn and masturbation. It's like scratching a healing scar in a way. So but going without orgasm AT ALL for a while we actually help the brain to rewire and heal faster and more efficiently. That's the whole point of a Hard Mode - no sexual release WHATSOEVER for faster and more efficient healing and rewiring of the brain. So if you are having O during real sex by definition you are not doing Hard Mode. You might still be healing just fine tho, everybody can pick their own way how to reboot, we are different and what works for me might be just annoyance that makes it mentally harder for you, which you might find unnecessary.

    Another thing is that by going Hard Mode for a year we give ourselves the possibility to dissociate having sex with just a physical release (a scratching of an itch / a finish line) and make it about connection with our partner. That can build a lot of intimacy and I would argue is WAY more healthy than just finishing with having an orgasm in sex. And of course training self discipline by abstaining from O, which will be a huge ally when we need to fight that urge to indulge in our addictive behaviors. So there are many benefits to not having O at all!

    But don't get it twisted, it is not bad to have it during sex either. It's just that by doing this challenge we aim to get all the benefits of NOT having it, which we might not otherwise experience, or not experience as intensely. So we really want it ALL, the MAXIMUM of the reboot benefits, hence the Hard Mode.
     
  2. MasturbatieAtelier

    MasturbatieAtelier Fapstronaut

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    I'm in guys. Did a pretty long streak this summer, but never reached even 90 days. Got involved with a girl. Broke up. Got back to binging every other week or so. I fell hard but I am confident and motivated to restore myself to full glory.
    My goal is no PMO forever. First 90 days no girls either (monkmode).

    We are winning.
     
  3. This_Ends_Now

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    This is exactly what I've been looking for! I'll join you. Is there some sort of accountability group planned for this challenge? I don't think I can go this alone.

    As far as introductions go, I don't want to post a wall of text here, so I'll just link to my intro post over on New to NoFap: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/a-new-beginning-long-post.84203/

    I was looking for a New Years' Resolution style challenge when I signed up a couple weeks ago, so I'm excited about this. I really don't want to let myself down.
     
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  4. overclocked

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    @overclocked Hey man! I know you've been gone from a forum for a while, but in case you come back I'm calling you out on this shit lol. It's time! :cool:[/QUOTE]
    I didn't forget. It's on! 2017 is our year.
     
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  5. I'm overhauling my NoFap objectives and my mindset after a year of trying and failing. The fact that it's around the new year helps greatly with this, and instead of putting myself forward for 90 days, which (Lord knows how many times I have reset) may not be enough for a full reboot, I'm placing myself for the whole year. It will be tough, but I know what is ahead of me and I know, deep down, I'm fully willing to quit. I just have to break out of the old shackles of a perfectionist and self-defeatist mindset and I will win.

    Here's to a 2017 free of PMO!

    Rising_Phoenix_Of_Hope!, Rising Up, And Flying Into A Brighter Future!
     
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  6. I'll do my very best I have a lot depending on this. Please pray for me.
     
  7. I haven't planned any accountability group. I was just thinking we can support and encourage each other here in this thread. Maybe it's not the best way but to be honest I'm not quite sure how would an accountability group work, I've never made one or been part of one. Shall we like just make a public chat at Whatsapp or a group on Facebook or something? I don't use Whatsapp but I've heard people making chats there. Neither do I use Facebook so I don't know how that works either. But I could use it for the sake of supporting each other for this year. I really have no clue about this lol sorry. But if you need somebody to cheer you up or give some advice just post here and I can always do this on this thread, I'm sure other members will do the same and show support to each other, I hope.
    Awesome! Last time I've seen you here you said you were doing monk mode until 2017. How that went, may I ask?
     
  8. overclocked

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    Alright. I relapsed a few times but in the end I racked up some good streaks. Definately great progress. Please visit my journal if you wanna know what I was doing.
     
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  9. I did lurk at it, it's just that your last post was in in August 4th. But I will check it out again for an update when you gonna post it. :p Nice to hear that you've had a good progress!
     
  10. MuslimNoPorn

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  11. I was hoping somebody would set up a thread for 2017. Thanks for taking the initiative. 30 days is my longest streak. Have had several relapses lately. I want to let go of PMO forever.
     
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  12. mgm96

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    Ah I see, thanks for the reply
    hanks
     
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  13. This_Ends_Now

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    Facebook doesn't seem like the best choice since it quashes any hopes of anonymity people might have. Secret facebook groups can be made (groups only visible to members), and I'm sure one of those would be very effective and hard to ignore, but I don't know if people would want to be open to each other with their names.

    Given that, what seems like the best to me would be to have a GroupMe. It's a free service and if someone were to collect people's numbers via PM, then people could just use their usernames on here for the group (and change them if they wished). Importantly, GroupMe can be accessed via the internet through a browser or the app so you don't have to run up a phone bill with texts.

    Whatever the case, I think it'd be nice to have an opt-in group for this challenge, since I know I'm not as liable to check the forums regularly as I am to check e.g. my phone. I'd even be willing to do the part of organizing such a thing if you're not up to it. It'd probably merit an edit to the OP to get people on board, but people could join as they come.
     
  14. Hemo0

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    I am in today 1/1/2017 is the first day of NoFap
     
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  15. Hemo0

    Hemo0 New Fapstronaut

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    A whatsapp group sounds like a good idea..The communication between us will be easier and faster on a daily basis..Here where i live 1st day of the year almost ende, 364 days more to go
     
  16. DaveyMicrocosm

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    I was consistent on hard mode for 9 days but relapsed on P the 10th day and it could've caused the wet dream I had. My main goal is to retain my sperm. Because I'm somewhat of a follower of Samuel Aun Woer who said New brain cells are made from sperm (still don't know if this is true though). I do notice myself as a better functional human and sometimes more spiritually aware. But I do enjoy seeing nude women and it's hard to just live in my own mind or the world I experience because it's often uglier. Maybe you all could shed some light, I am reaquanting with a woman today but I guess I felt I was putting her on a pedestal and wanted to make things with her less uptight. I do notice urges of MO when I look at those pictures and that's why I just went to this site to post.
     
  17. nofap528

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    3/90 Too much day dreaming and fantasizing so I will have to keep myself better occupied I guees i'm not sure.
     
  18. Baller123

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    I'm on day 5 and I feel ecstatic.
     
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  19. Baller123

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    I think one of the keys here is to also avoid sexual images and this can be on social media a lot, so unfollowing those accounts will lead to a greater chance that you will last longer.
     
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  20. I did my research and it seems that WhatsApp and GroupMe need phone numbers to register or to join chat? To be honest I rather give my identity away than my phone number. Ugh, I'm kinda paranoid about that stuff. I did found an alternative, kinda shitty one tho. The alternative I found is called chatstep.com. We could crate a room called "NoFap Hard Mode 365" with a password "2017", as in this year's number. Unfortunately I think chat room vanishes once nobody is in it so potentially open for the trolls who can re-create it and change the password for the name of the chat. And I don't think it keeps track of messages either once it's gone. So, yea...

    You can suggest something else. I will also keep searching, see if I find something better myself. I would like something that is anonymous and does not require phone number to register. Kinda like this forum, just a random fake email, which isn't even on my real name either, and a username. Or alternatively somebody can make a GroupMe thing, but I won't be able to menage it or join it. Cos I don't like the idea of giving away my phone number. :oops:
     
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