Since I thought that this post can't belong to any thread, I've chosen this off-topic section. I simply ask this question to myself: Why is it not possible only to meet a woman only for having sex? I think that sex shouldn't always have to with deep connection or any dogmas what religions tells us. If you act carefully, that means you as a men use a condom and be respectful to woman,then there is literally no problem to have that fun act. People who are coming from a religious background, who dont have sex before they get married are mostly feeling insecure with their bodies or with the body of their partners. They feel emotionally like a wreck. This is actually what alot of men and woman from a muslim backround especially the middle eastern are reporting, the same goes with people who are from the catholic background from all over the world. I have heard alot of stories, especially a men who was talking about his "first time" with his first wife he has married with mid 30. He came after 5 minutes and his wife laughed him out. She made fun of him. He thought that this woman liked him but he felt miserable. Not because she laughed at him because but because he came too early at that moment. But lets pretend this isn't the case for middle aged men, it is mostly a shame for them to come after 5 minutes. They did everything what their god has said, but inside they felt only emotional pain and they can't be happy at that very moment. That is what I also felt for the last days. What is when I also experience the same? Why should I not experience sex only to know that my insecurities aren't there? Are you living a life only to make babys or do you live a life because you want to have the most fun before you die. Everybody has to die, so why are you sacrifice yourself for such an ideology? You can only know a person when you had already "contact" to that person. But when you are already married, you can't go back to the past and act like nothing has happend, you know what I mean? Just be good friends first OR NOT, talk about anything else, kiss each other and have some good amount of sex. Some might say that sex is not the most important thing in life (others saying the opposite) and it is forbidden for them, because it is holy or sentences like you wont miss it (Sex) if you don't do it are all rubbish thoughts from the middle age. And thats why I said on the other hand, for myself "fuck it!", should I wait and be unlucky about my situation for the rest of my life, that I never found a girl who will adore me? Or never said that I had sex in my life only doig it for a god?, who is not fully scientifically prooven?, who is not supportive during my (our) hardest times, who is not there when woman are raped and children sexual abused or even killed?..... A god who is not supportive and against having fun is not my path, my friend nor my life. I don't want to die before I had never sex in my life. For one or another it might sound stupid, but you can't be lucky if you always act against your senses, your deep wishes. I really would like to have sex right now. And if I had the oppurtunity that a nice girl ask for a sex relationship I would say Yes lets do it. You dont have to fell in love me but having sex with me is better than having sex with your vibrator or dildo, isn't it so? You want to feel the real thing and not your hand or any device. I am not an ugly person only a short guy with 1.65m. And I dont care who woman looks like, she should only be clean. We dont have to feel a companionship or any deeper connection than that, we can just count this as sex buddys. And there is nothing wrong with that. I would rather have sex for the rest of my life than masturbating for the rest of my life. Even when my neighbour say "Krillin come around lets have sex". I would simply say "lets do it" I am not afraid of any stories about hell. My life was a hell. The earth can be heaven or hell, only when you help yourself. And if a god is that sadistic that he put me in hell than he never was my friend or my savier in the first place. He was more worse than the devil. The devil at least did nothing wrong. The most ignorant creature in my life was god for me. Always. Because I have believed i him. That was my biggest mistake I did. I am not his friend and he is not mine. I did alot for him in the past (by the way). Today I am an Atheist and abit happier than before.